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I don't think you're being unreasonable. I just think I still like women more. Both in theory and practice. Case in point, I wouldn't particularly feel inclined to write on gender-war adjacent topics, even if I appreciate the ones you do put out.
They tend to be softer, kinder, and more empathetic than the average man. Less likely to be an emotional brick than us, but not me I suppose. It makes me a good psychiatrist, even if I'm perfectly masculine in other respects. They are both more interested in, and better at, the emotional and daily logistics. I play to my strengths, and they cover my weaknesses, and I appreciate that greatly.
Somebody has to, and no-one else will.
Well, more specifically, few people will do one focused directly on the facts and not solely to grift on gender wars discourse.
Its not something I enjoy, but I get a very deranged sense of gratification when people challenge me on it and then completely fail to bolster their arguments.
Ultimately it's not the healthiest outlet, so I try to actively spend time around the women I enjoy the company of to counterbalance it.
Agreed! Nothing drops my blood pressure like being around a smiling, pleasant woman. Even irrespective of the desire for kids and the financial benefits, having a reliable companion to come home to who makes your day instantly brighter is a benefit I would pay thousands of dollars a year for.
Its a strong barbell distribution. Tons of women whose mere presence will spike your cortisol, and many who will instantly relieve even the worst stress, and not too many any between.
I do that, and I used to engage in this kind of wrongthinking way more in a very rigorous source-driven manner, but I've been saying the same things so many times and pointing to the same ever-growing corpus of information (that everyone conveniently ignores) so much that I ended up feeling like writing on gender wars discourse was a waste of my time and an act of egregious self-mutilation worse than actual self-harm. Sense of gratification completely went to shit after the 6th straight year of doing it.
Keep fighting the good fight though, indeed somebody has to do it.
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