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Culture War Roundup for the week of February 27, 2023

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This is outlandishly culturally biased. Essentially everywhere except North America, people live with their parents until they save up to buy a house/move in with a partner. They may temporarily move out for schooling and whatnot if it's not close to home, but the expectation is certainly that they stay and save while they're close to home (were you going for a meta cheap shot about Asians/South Americans/Middle Easterns being inferior romantic partners by inference?).

And do Asian parents let their adult kids have their sexual partners stay overnight in the family home? Is it acceptable to be banging some girl that you are not engaged to and not going to marry (because your family already have plans about that) under their roof?

Even you mention saving up to move in with a partner, so does that mean that while both parties are living with their parents, nothing more than hand-holding goes on?

Asia is facing its' own fertility crisis, but I think it's safe to say that almost universally, family housing isn't conducive to premarital sex. My point was rather that if it's a norm, it's not particularly unattractive, as it is in the US. Are Japanese, Indian or Chinese refusing to date because their counterparts still live with their parents?

Also, I can't say I've witnessed this in Asia, but Brazil, for instance, has the whole love motel thing going on, where entrepreneurial businessfolk set themselves out to allow the generationally entrapped to tryst and frolick away from the watchful eyes of their progenitors.

Wonder if Brazil's love motels were inspired by Japan's love hotels.

Huh, any Japanese care to chime in about how widespread these are with various generations?

The part about parents going to get away from their kids is an amusing dynamic, in my eyes.

This is outlandishly culturally biased. Essentially everywhere except North America, people live with their parents until they save up to buy a house/move in with a partner.

No, not really. ("Essentially everywhere expect North America and North/West Europe" would probably be more correct, though.)

Scandinavia doesn't surprise me here. I had a Swedish friend whose parents started charging him rent when he turned 18 (not unusual in the US, unheard of in Southeastern Europe/Asia).

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