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Friday Fun Thread for September 11, 2026

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Inspiring controversy on Reddit today is an extremely long-winded comic, "I Don't Like My Boyfriend". Each of its 12 panels was posted as a separate image, so here are some consolidated renditions for your convenience.

In this comic, a woman contemplates how she doesn't like her boyfriend (who is drawn as a short, fat Chudjak). She finds him boring and annoying. However, he is smitten with her, and she has never had any friends, let alone romantic partners, other than him. She wonders whether she is just an unlikeable person, and should be more grateful for having hooked a person with such low standards. The general opinion of commenters seems to be hatred for the woman.

This actually matches my personal experience with attempts at friendship (1 2) somewhat well! I eventually couldn't tolerate my pseudo-friends any longer and kicked them all to the curb, and the commenters seem to think that the woman depicted in the comic should do the same with her romantic partner.

Do you have any thoughts on this topic?

I wonder if the chudjak bf has an engineering degree. Recently I learned that the "not asking personal questions" thing is a stereotype about engineers.

Ah yes, "engineers."

I don't know what you're trying to say here.

Sorry, I thought you were speaking euphemistically and answered somewhat elliptically.

My point was that sometimes there may be some overlap between people using the term "engineer" and a more clinical ASD-type terminology. For example, consider the case of someone who:

  • Has a preference for highly systematized thinking
  • Has poor conversational reciprocity
  • Experiences high cognitive load from focusing on specific social responses, leading to missed social context
  • Has unusually specific interests
  • Has a low tolerance for ambiguity

It might be socially acceptable to say, "That person is very engineer-brained." An alternate explanation might be: "I'm no psychologist, but I'm not ruling out level one ASD."

Epistemic status of the following: I'm no psychologist; illustrative only.

More generally, there's probably a group common in engineering that has some combination of high intelligence and ASD-like cognition. This combo would allow highly adaptive compensation, specifically through systematized, internalized social cues and intellectually derived rules. This might suppress clinically significant impairment, but might not constitute a separate type of cognitive cluster.

With respect to clustering, if you do a clustering analysis on what you might term natural kinds, for example from fMRI, genotype, or other biomarkers, or from clinical agreement on severity levels, you may actually find significantly better silhouetting within the "group," specifically on bimodal projections such as verbal versus non-verbal. If you extract the cluster from latent space that is most highly associated with ASD, I expect the most stable cluster is likely to contain both members who are clinically diagnosed with ASD and other people. That is, members who are not dysfunctional by clinical standards but have similar cognitive habits. The members who do have "dysfunction" may not be a pure representation of their natural kind in the state of nature, but rather an interaction between the environment and the natural kind. The non-pathological members of that group might be those with:

  • Unusually high capacity for explicit system-building
  • Learned social rules
  • Selected into an occupation with explicit norms
  • A peer group that is tolerant of unusual communication
  • A profession that grants enough autonomy to structure their environment

And they would not appear dysfunctional, but may belong to the same latent cluster as ASD. So they are "level 0": no apparent support needs. But like the other support levels, this is a function of the current environment, not latent cognition.

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