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Culture War Roundup for the week of September 28, 2026

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I think you need to find smaller niches. Somebody already mentioned that every app is a dating app. Linkedin is a dating app. Pinterest is a dating app. Goodread is a dating app. Youtube is a dating app. Themotte is a dating app if you're into lawyers and AI-doomers.

Think of the most female-coded hobbies you can think of and find some kind of gathering point for them. There, find and befriend a somewhat representative example of a woman you wouldn't mind being married to. She's probably already taken, but this is to give you an idea of what you want.

That woman may have friends, cousins, sisters, built on roughly the same model, that are not taken. Another aspect of it which you are probably aware of, is that you have to completely hide your awareness of the woes of the dating market. Take some kind of imaginary bluepill.

Then once you find somebody good enough, go for it.

Doesn't all this normally count as online stalking/harassment in the eyes of normies?

Maybe. Call it online stalking, I call it intentional dating.
In which case, don't get caught? There's a number of pitfalls, like verifying an actual adult female before offering a meeting.
I'm not saying you should launch a bot that automatically creepily propositions every female within a given radius.
But just consider that most people spend a fraction of their leisure time online, and that usually means that they are not available for a chance encounter out there.

Normies as in the kinds of people who write comments on Reddit, or normies as in people you run into in your day to day life?

The first group would consider it harrassment unless the other person is into it, basically no matter what you write. The second group has somewhat more tolerance for trying as long as you take no for an answer and aren't too crude.

Why are you assuming the two groups are radically different?

Because they are. Most people don't bother commenting, for one. Secondly, Reddit is to my knowledge mostly millennial leftists. The younger generations use Tik Tok and other short form content more.

Finally, reddit skews heavily left and feminist. In the real world, people are much more split politically and sort themselves into communities based on who they get along with. So a lot of normal people will be more okay with romantic advances than your average internet leftist.

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