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What does type 2 sex look like? I can kinda pretend to understand it as a type 2 activity within the larger context of a relationship, but sex that isn't pure pleasure in the moment, but that you can't wait to repeat sounds very kinky to me.
Type 2 activities are those that take some amount of effort to do and aren't actually pleasant in the moment, and less 'can't wait to repeat' and more 'this is kind of a drag, but it's pleasing to the other person/that's just how they function, so here we go again'.
Inherent narcissism does the rest- progs believe men simply don't get to require a woman do anything she doesn't want to, and trads are men who tend to forget to set up the conditions for sex to qualify as type 1 for his wife (or that women would even want sex in the first place).
We have a disagreement there. I've always considered type 2 to be stuff that you enjoy, but not right when it's happening. Like running a marathon. People don't usually run forty kilometers to please another person.
I mean, they do have sex to please other people; plenty of documented cases of that.
But that's why I consider it to not really be that unpleasant. Sure, maybe I'd rather be doing something else, but barring any other good ideas as to what else to do on a Friday night I might as well do the thing.
What did it cost, time and a bit of physical discomfort? (Sounds like work that I'm doing because I'm after the reward rather than because I enjoy the work, but then again, that's Type 2 vs. Type 1 in the sense of 'it would be nice to see from the summit' vs. 'hiking is fun enough on its own'.)
I grant that I'm not really the central example of how I "have" fun, but maybe there's a bit of anhedonia running in the background I'm taking advantage of that other people don't really experience. Or maybe I understand it better if we start from the assumption that what actually counts is some deep-seated excuse to not have to be in the driver's seat (or maybe compensate for being somewhat empty inside, or where most of my favorite things to do being inherently single-player with little room for other interaction requiring seeking activities I don't actually like on their own) as far as the experience goes, which from what I can gather is also more of a woman thing.
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