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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 19, 2026

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I don't know how often women actually note "perky tits" on themselves or other women, but the meme on the Internet is "breasting boobily," which is basically about male authors who spend too much time emphasizing a woman's appearance (and especially her breasts) in every scene, having her examine herself in a mirror (so the author can describe her perky tits), etc. This sometimes happens, and sometimes you do get the impression the author is infatuated with his own character, but now it's like a lot of writing memes, where it's a pattern you sometimes see but the mere existence of it in a scene is not, contrary to lots of bad writing advice, "bad writing."

(I mean, if you start the book with your character waking up from a dream, or the first thing the female character does is check herself out in the mirror, I probably am going to roll my eyes hard.)

The reasonable commentary I've seen is that the point of a mirror scene is so the POV character can describe to the audience what they look like (although, as I've read, a real person looking at themselves in the mirror usually notices what's changed, what they don't like, that their hair's a mess at the moment...). Presumably many authors think that when describing a female main character, cup size is a mandatory inclusion.

Alternatively, inexperienced authors know they are supposed to describe the environment, but they don't know what parts are important to focus on. So they end up including certain things that don't particularly matter, with female body parts simply being one of the more noticeable bits.

Right, the reason for a mirror scene is obvious. It's just become such a cliche at this point, it's like "It was a dark and stormy night."

It also easily gets boring. It is usually more interesting when the character description has some dual purpose to it. Someone being intimidated by a character's appearance is more interesting than just describing him as "tall, muscular, and tattooed".

In the worst cases, it feels like a waste of space. Like, this is supposed to be an action story why are you admiring your tits and long, flowy hair? Unless the point is for her to be sexy or it serves some kind of narrative purpose (romance subplot, weakness in fights) it doesn't really matter much.