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Child support orders are not based on who consented or not. They're based on replacing welfare given to the custodial parent.

They're based on replacing welfare given to the custodial parent.

Yet it's abundantly clear that if the woman doesn't consent, she can unilaterally and forcefully terminate all her child s[upport] whenever she chooses no matter what the other parent believes, even if they have 100% joint custody (usually called 'a marriage').

Sure, you have to argue that you were insane in front of a judge in the most extreme case, but even in that case your peers will nearly unanimously agree you have the right to end that agreement whenever you so choose because that Protects Women.

The entire problem is that the double-standard that used to be viable (because it was compensated for in other areas of life by the conditions of reality) is no longer so, and the compensation traditional human instinct assumes is there... isn't. There were always other more even-handed ways of dealing with this problem but those seem to have been deliberately ignored.

But hey, US foreign policy even in nations it was supposed to be building is "permit the local aristocracy to get its boy-rape on so the women could have a future"- I guess if nothing else, it's a consistent approach.

In the rare cases where a man gets sole custody, child support is not an unusual outcome.

I wouldn't class "a man gets sole custody of a baby he committed a sex crime to father and is now extracting child support from the victim" as simply "rare". Not even if she marries her rapist.

If male sexual consent were real, then it would seem rather odd that the State would be willing to give custody of a child to a rapist and make the victim pay child support. I've certainly never heard of it happening where the male rapist gets custody of the child and then gets child support payments from the female.

Female victims also have the ability to get an abortion and avoid the whole problem, which a male victim does not.

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