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Okay, sure, but I'm very intentionally questioning the assertion you actually made, that no one would push back on a de jure law that only applies in one direction. That it de facto heavily benefits one sex over the other isn't surprising, but, you know, 27% of filings and 20% granted being men is a minority, but it's not nothing, or even statistically insignificant.
And, courts unfair to men women never held responsible yadda yadda whatever, but men are more often the ones being removed for physical abuse? I am shocked. To the degree these court orders are weaponized (a push or a slap becomes "threatened my life"), I would be very surprised if men aren't doing that just as often.
Can you point out any previous serious pushback against laws that explicitly favor women/protections for women?
We have the abortion situation, but voters tend to approve broader abortion rights, when asked. Its like, there is just no actual organized 'resistance' to a law that is couched as pro-female!
I think if you simply couched it as "protecting women from becoming unhoused by abusive partners exploiting the courts" you could turn it into a 60-40 in favor issue, at least.
Would YOU vote against that?
No. But I can't recall any recent laws that made a black-and-white distinction like what you are hypothesizing. If you can show me a law (in the US) that literally says, for example, "Abuse is defined as a male hitting a female," or something like that, I will reassess my opinion.
Would I vote against a law that explicitly defines abuse in such a way that men hitting women is abuse and women hitting men is not? Yes, I would.
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