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I swear this example is pertinent. In porn, there is a specific genre of race fetishism videos, where the main draw of the video is a woman of a certain race glorifying and fetishizing men of another race. The woman is generally of a minority race and the man is generally either white or black. This obviously humiliates the men of the woman's own race while elevating the fetishized race.
Asian-American dating content is essentially a softcore version of those videos on repeat. Asian girls are quite open about their preferences, and even if they weren't people have eyes and can see for themselves in real time. So much so that "Oxford Study" is a well known meme at this point. As noted before, Asian-American men are disturbed by the fact that Asian-American women both prefer and are preferred by whites (for an extreme example of this just go to /r/asianmasculinity). Based off of the videos I linked, there has been a lot of discussion, at least among Asian-American men themselves, about this and how to deal/cope with this phenomenon. It's also quite difficult to even discuss this topic as an Asian-American man without coming off as bitter and emasculated so discussion generally remains within our own circles.
As an Asian-American man, I personally feel the effects of this dynamic as well.
Ah, I see what you mean.
For what it’s worth, I have seen an uptick in anti-WMAF sentiment from Asian women themselves on social media (primarily Substack, sometimes X). Unfortunately most of it comes from hyperwoke Asian women who decry WMAF relationships as complicity with colonialist cisheteropatriarchy (or whatever verbiage the kids these days are using). Even if said women actually apply their stated beliefs to their personal lives, I couldn’t fault a well-adjusted man for not wanting to date a Person of Hair Color.
Still, perhaps there is a bit of a whitepill here: if normie, not-especially-woke Asian women absorb enough messaging from social media that WMAF is cringe and “so 2010s”, perhaps their preferences will also change: women’s preferences are famously quite susceptible to social pressure, memes, and zeitgeist. Indeed, this tweet provides some evidence in favor of this thesis.
Then again, perhaps it’s more of a graypill than a whitepill; even if true, all it establishes is that Asian women are soulless statusmaxxers who will hop onto any bandwagon as long as it’s prestigious enough … and hop right off as soon as its fortunes change.
Spoiler alert: they don't.
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This is just Asians in general, but especially in Asia. If you’ve been exposed to Asian dramas, you’d be familiar the quite frankly psychotic social games being played there. I’m happy that I was able to avoid most of it.
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