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Jensen Huang just got busted having an affair with what's probably a Chinese spy.

Jensen is a wifeguy of 41 years. In some sense he probably never stood a chance.

Blow-ups like this reinforce my bias that while poly/open relationships exist, you can't get away with them if you're a high status man. Sure, if you're a billionaire CEO, your wife may say she's okay with a discreet affair but she'll deny it and throw you to the wolves (and take you to the cleaners) if it ends up on the front page of the NYT. Similarly, women having affairs with married billionaire CEOs may be driven crazy by being #2 bitch in a way that they wouldn't really mind if the man had normal status. And if they are okay with it, it's probably because they're spies.

Now Jensen's wife hasn't said anything about divorcing him, but he's publicly apologizing to her and his family for this, so I presume they at least need to keep up the appearance that they're not poly. Since poly is low status.

Am I wrong?

What makes you think he was quietly poly, rather than just unfaithful?

Nothing. I'm just using the opportunity to say even highly influential billionaire CEOs can't get away with fucking around. Even if they're in SV where everyone is supposed to be sexually enlightened.

Elon Musk seems to have gotten away with it. Sure, tons of people hate him, but basically nobody hates him because of him fucking around.

The price seems to be having kids with like half a dozen different women? Sounds like hell.

My understanding is that with one or two exceptions he doesn't really parent most of his kids. He makes contracts where they'll have his kid and sign an NDA, and then get piles of money to raise them mostly without his involvement.

On a moral level I don't think this is a great way to be a parent, and not great for the kids. But on a practical level from his perspective it's the same effort as not having them, but increases his genetic stake in the future of humanity.

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