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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 13, 2023

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I think that people do tend to become dissatisfied after a while in any situation as novelty and excitement wears off.

I can understand twenty-somethings in their first long-term relationship having second thoughts, and wondering if they can do better. I can also agree that novelty and excitement inevitably wears off, but I don't see how that necessarily implies dissatisfaction.

I don't know what will make people happier about "I'm stuck with only one person to have sex with, and it's not as exciting as it used to be, and I wish I could be grazing on that greener grass on the other side of the fence".

Shame? Mockery? Psy-ops equal to in strength but opposite in direction to the current ones, which would glorify sticking through tough times, instead of chasing butterflies in your stomach?

I do think as you get older, the range of possibilities shuts down. When you're in your 40s and 50s, there's now a lot of paths you never took and will never get to take, a lot of choices and responsibilities you have made and taken upon yourself. You're getting older, and the range of your future is narrowing bit by bit (another thirty years of life is now less ahead than behind you, much different than being in your 20s). Everyone begins to wonder "Is that it? Is this all I have? Could I have done better? Could I do better?"

Having a fling is one way of reassuring yourself that you're still desirable and capable of spontaneity. 'Familiarity breeds contempt' is a saying for a reason, we get used to what we have and don't find it interesting or valuable anymore, because we expect to have it. Now, if you imbibed the modern notion that "being in love" is the only reason for going into and staying in a relationship, then finding "but I don't feel like I am in love" may persuade you to break things by having a fling or deciding you will leave your spouse and take up with newer version. The views of duty and sticking with something and that indeed change is inevitable and we must deal with that are less popular, because they are so restrictive. Why can't I have it all, what is the good of being someone living in the modern age with all the choices my ancestors could never have, if I'm going to be stuck with "just like your grandparents, you are going to find that the pink fizzy excitement wears off and you are living a companionate relationship instead of one of high passion and excitement every day".

What would psy-ops opposite in direction to the current ones even look like? Divorce makes for easy TV because it's dramatic and I think that's an underrated factor in current psy-ops.

Something like the Stark family in GoT, but with less tragedy is the first thing that comes to my mind.