The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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While I’d recommend staying away from toxic PUA writings, one of the best things I discovering perusing those poison laced tomes was the idea of “agree and amplify.”
Basically if someone is making you uncomfortable or challenging you in some way (like in your example) you confidently laugh it off and make it absurd. For instance, you could reply “oh yeah I’m saving myself for marriage.” Make sure to frame it as a joke.
As others have pointed out, joking isn’t lying! It’s all about tone and body language, watch some modern comedians maybe to get an idea.
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