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My wife has fallen out of love with me. Nothing that she says makes any sense to me. I present you her latest email with private information elided (she is away on a business trip),
She has certainly become a happier person. But, I miss the cozy feelings we used to share. Does anyone have advice for me to change her mind? I think she is probably in denial, but I cannot confront her like that.
I must confess to more skepticism than I feel even when reading typical Dear Prudence or /r/relationship_advice fare. If that really is a letter written by your wife, well, I think she should find her calling as a writer of female self-actualization books and chicklit novels.
This is basically a very wordy "I love you but I'm not in love with you." What exactly do you think she is "in denial" about?
Ha, she is indeed planning to write a self-actualization book.
That she is repressing her need for love in contrast to her claim that she is becoming freed from the need for both romantic and unconditional love. I gave further details in my response to naraburns above.
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