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Yes, even in my final year of undergrad at the age of 21 I was far less conscientous and noticeably more awkward than I am now. The first was solved by working a bunch of kitchen and manual labour jobs where I got very good at not being late for things. I think functioning on 4 hours sleep is a trainable skill. I still mess up my focus sometimes by drinking or gaming (the latter has effects even when you're not playing), but in general I can go to a library and study for 4 hours without any deadline to motivate me.
The second I can partly attribute to drugs like MDMA and LSD (but the afterglow wears off eventually), partly picking the low hanging fruit of just meeting more people, and partly as a result of me no longer treating social situations as tests I have to pass or fail but opportunities to meet someone I really get along with. The latter is important as I still think I'd be just as awkward today in a room full of people I don't have anything in common with, but I have been pleasantly surprised at the results of no longer being afraid to tell jokes that are funny rather than pleasing or of giving my real opinions to people (with some sugar-coating or self-censorship depending on what I know about them of course). There are a lot more people I can easily get along with than I thought, I was just not doing a good enough job of going out on a limb and raising a flag for them to spot me. There is a risk with being genuine like this, not everyone will like you, but even the most socially savvy people I know have a few enemies.
My personal experience would strongly disagree ;)
During my internship, I had multiple stretches of less than 6 hours of sleep, and I never got any better at handling it. That's a big negative for a doctor, the very best can function acceptably even in utter sleep deprivation.
That's acceptable and not optimal, because countless studies show that doctors and surgeons fuck up orders of magnitude more when they're sleep deprived. Yet the machismo in the profession persists..
I won't disagree, but that's far more complex work than I've ever had to do.
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