The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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How do I stop being such a judgmental midwit? I come from an average/below average intelligence family and happened to show signs of intelligence that were mostly cancelled out by my lows. However my father was such a narcissistic, hypercritical asshole that I developed a defense mechanism of reflecting his disdain towards me back onto him. It's been over 10 years and I'm mostly happy, but it's still a habit whenever I get into a belligerent mood, to quickly become dismissive of someone's intelligence and commit fundamental attribution error. On the one hand it works to de-escalate and allows me to physically relax, but I also feel bad afterwards because it's hypocritical, and smarter people whom I admire don't seem to resort to this.
Find God, or yoga. This sort of development is best pursued in a spiritual context I've found, regardless of which context that is.
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