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New Yorker article on Feeld: A Hookup App for the Emotionally Mature.
I'm curious what reactions and discussion this sparks.
This is one of the more ridiculous articles I’ve ever read. Thank you. This journalist and her friend are the future. Post-wall women with no families, aged out of Twitter and Hinge, racking up body count with “open minded” men, nonbinaries, couples, and other people that are similarly alone.
They sound like big kids. The journalist loses her apartment suddenly and has to throw her stuff in a storage unit and her dad’s car (that she’s presumably using). She’s 39!!! And random hookup sex was her answer to this!
She talks about a friend who was “house sitting” for her parents. I’m guessing this friend is about her age, has a shitty apartment in Brooklyn, and is crashing at her parents house while her parents are at their vacation home. This is the kind of shit I did when I was 24.
I tend to enjoy the schadenfreude of hearing these types of stories and wondering what the future holds for this cohort. I think this is the answer. As much as people look down on tinder and hookup culture - this is worse. The young people on tinder at least have have hope. I met my wife on hinge. These women will be racking up enormous body counts. It won’t be normal sex. It will be strange kink. People using sex to fill the hole in their lives. Like an old alcoholic alone at a bar getting shitfaced each night.
Everyone should read this article. What a world.
The future? More like the present, it appears. This article is one long coffee emoji, better than any weak- or straw-woman the manosphere, dirtbag left, or dissident right could ever conjure.
Can we call-in a wellness check for her father to make sure he’s okay?
Your childless, middle-aged daughter suddenly needs your car because her relationship “abruptly collapsed” (surely due to no fault of her own), then next thing you know she authors a longform article on how she continues riding the carousel to cope. feelsbadman.jpg
Her friend couldn’t even house-sit at her parents’ for a night without inviting a random guy over to raid their liquor and rail their daughter. I’m sure her parents are proud.
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