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Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 9, 2023

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What is your top baby/kid advice? We are in the third trimester with our first. Revolutionary must have gadget, let them cry it out, co-sleep don't co-sleep, have a closet lined with mirrors to lock them in?

Make sure you and so, starting at 6-9 months, have a trustworthy babysitter you can leave the kids with and have a sanity-keeping weekend.

A bunch of us decided to get knocked up around the same time. We're thinking rotating date nights where we unload the kids on one couple. Though 6-9 months might be a little young for that.

6-9 months is not "too young" for a capable parent to hang out with your kid for a 2-hour dinner.

This is a wild myth fabricated whole cloth by fucking millennials. At 4 months you should be starting on "cry it out" and then very soon after that be comfortable with an adult babysitter. (And yes cry it out is 100% the correct move)

Now, does reality matter? I doubt it. Whoever in the friend group decides to start living some semblance of their life again the soonest will be branded as the least devoted parent, so you'll all play chicken and stay locked in your houses :) it's gonna be great!

In that ultra early period you can only really leave them with someone you can trust, like a responsible family member, but imo it's super important to ensure you and your SO do in fact get some alone time that isn't just with baby.

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