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How many people feel strong romantic connections with their partners? I feel like I experienced this in my first few relationships but not really in the decade since then. I'm not really clear whether you're supposed to still feel a spark in adult relationships or whether those are just irrational young love feelings that don't really pop up again, and most healthy adult relationships are just based on finding someone who's compatible and nice.
It's never been a spark for me, more of a slow steady fire that never goes out. I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 years now, and she's bare none my favorite person, there's nobody I'd rather be stuck on a 20 hour plane journey with, or spend a quiet evening alone with. Everything is just better when she's around. Spark or no spark, if you don't look at them at least once a day and think, dang, I'm glad they're here with me, they might not be the one.
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