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This seems like an odd equivocation.
There's no discussion of whether the parents or teachers are more likely to be abusive. If a teacher is abusive in the classroom they get fired, and besides the only teacher we're talking about here are the supportive ones who want to be good allies. The only abuse that is at question here is from the parents.
Similarly, we're not talking about who is more likely to be wrong here. The only concern is about abusive parents, not incorrect parents. We're trying to prevent abuse.
yes, in teh average case the student has already told their parents everything long before coming to the school with it.
In the average case, the parents are the ones making the request, because their child asked them to and convinced them it was the right thing to do.
We're not talking about the average case, we're talking about the case where a child is begging their school not to tell their parents because they think they'll be abused, and the school finds this plausible enough to go along with them.
Do you think that in those rare cases, it's still more likely that the student is wrong and the best thing for the student is for their parent to know?
'Among the demographic where parents are most likely to abuse their kids for coming out as trans, very few kids come out as trans' is maybe not the ringing endorsement of your position that you think it is.
No, you aren't. Even granting your premise that transgenderism is real, 99.9999999% of adolescent cases are just psychosomatic angst best treated with a stern "honey, you're wrong about this. Go look at yourself naked in the bathroom mirror to check your gender" and the goal is to prevent that approach.
Yes. Kids are stupid, transgenderism is made up, and the definition of 'abuse' in this case is just "calling mentally ill teens on their bullshit instead of letting them seriously harm themselves".
Few among demographics that have real problems come out as trans, yes.
Your entire argument seems to be 'I reject all empirical observations and assert my ideological position as true no matter what', which isn't really an argument that can be engaged with.
I could spend a half hour writing a wall of text about what social constructs are and how the categories are made for man and so forth, but it's hard for me to imagine you are here and don't already know those things. It seems more likely that this is a case of visibly ignoring them in order to do ideological virtue signalling.
So, good luck with that I guess.
Could you, please?
Moreover, could you define 'gender' in a non-self-referential way that isn't just biological sex?
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