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I did consider your point. My point is indepent of that.
In that, it doesn't really matter who started all this. The only ones who can fix it are women. Because they are the choosers and trend setters.
For some reason, they don't choose in the interest of their better judgements as you claim, AND they don't set the trend otherwise. What does this tell us? That they want it to be this way. And if they don't any individual woman can "defect" not at great cost but great gain. Do you think if A INDIVIDUAL woman actually approached men [1] and wasn't maximally hostile to mens existence in matters of transmitting and receiving, she would have a bad time? Do you really think most men are asking for blowjobs the first time they meet a woman? This is a non issue for the individual woman. And things that can be fixed individually are not cause for me to lose sleep. It's like yeah obesity is a societal problem, but it probably isn't for you, you can just go to the gym.
On the male end, there is little any individual man can do. I do lose sleep over those with cancer.
So yes obesity and cancer both kill a lot of people and sucks for both of them. But talking about obesity is a bit of a waste of time.
Once again, I'm not reading past any of the things that you said, I just don't think men have nearly enough control over this as you think they do.
[1] Yeah I know RADICAL IDEA. But nothing but society is actually preventing any woman from doing it. Also at the same time men get shat on more and more as they do it.
They don't need to do this, but most of the behavioral changes that will have to fall on the shoulders of women.
This appears to be true under our current atomic individualist norms, but that is because men are acting as atomic individualists and women are not. Women organize as a class, and that organization is driving most of the problem, and of course individual men can't do anything about that through their independent effort.
The solution is to not be an atomic individualist. I have a church and a faith. These integrate me into a larger social structure that places considerable constraints on my behavior, and also largely solves the problem you're pointing to. Men and women both are fenced off from pursuing the greedy personal maxima that make them and everyone around them miserable. It works really, really well, reliably, without the usual wealth and IQ confounders.
And the best part is, since it's obviously based on simplistic, low-IQ superstitious nonsense, it can't be that hard to adapt the core social tech to your own ends, right?
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