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I might be being abrasive but I don't think anything I am saying is actually ill-reasoned. I believe the motte developed enough of a common epistemic culture (and everyone is high IQ enough) to speak to each other without wrapping everything in niceties and sugar. Might as well get straight to the point and save all of our precious time.
It's not at all hard for me to believe.
But my observation has been what you are speaking of either happens if you are shooting way way out of your league.. or if you are a teenage girl asking out teenage boys. I strongly doubt a level-headed down to earth adult woman would face this.
Nevertheless, I never said this was realistic. Just a wild idea as to how one individual woman can "defect" and get her cake. Maybe I don't think of women lowly enough to realize that they can't individually figure this out?
Data is strongly in my favor. Most young men are single, not women. But that's a dead horse.
Your whole point is "please concede that women have it bad too!"
My response is.. "yes but what can I do about that? if they themselves do otherwise?"
Not any more than what you've already spelled out. It's not like I am evil robot who won't concede that 16 year old girls having to look up blowjob tutorials is not optimal.
My response is.. they can simply.. not do that.
I'm just approaching womens plight with the same way all of men's plights get approached. Problem ? Fix it.
Okay, what can an individual woman do?
I'm pretty sure you will converge to a solution that is 90% same as mine.
Yes, this is the subset of your whole point I am interested in discussing. The rest I conceded.
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How old are you, and can you honestly say with a straight face that you never fell for a psy-op? They're 16 for crying out loud!
Well... there's your problem....
Okay maybe I wasn't being clear enough. I mean't actual adult women don't have to do the adult women version of a 16 year old girl watching blowjob tutorials.
Whats the solution?
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