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PaperclipPerfector  6mo ago (text post)   2228 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for October 20, 2023

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Not fun but...

Im turning 26 soon and am single. I dont think that might change very soon.

I got a mini heart attack though when I realized that time is ticking and the pool will only get smaller geometrically from now onwards.

I have strong career growth and earn more than most my age. But as most men in tech know, this doesnt help as much as we'd like.

Do I continue panicking and start taking drastic measures? (Like moving to a different countries or whatever,I live in a particularly bad one in terms of m:f ratio)

My biggest hurdle is a lack of venues to meet women at. Work and friends wont help.

Do you want children? I was in a similar position as you and found my wife in my 30s and it's working out pretty great, but parenthood was never a major goal of mine. The thought of raising a child in my forties is absolutely exhausting: you have time, and biologically your sperm will be fine for a long while, but I do strongly suggest having kids sooner rather than later if it's a goal. You won't have issues finding a partner who wants and is capable of having kids when you're 40, but your energy levels will have dropped precipitously.

Where do you live? If it's a tech-heavy West Coast city, I do think moving to NYC is a pretty good piece of advice, something that I wish I'd done. Plenty of jobs there, and the ratio is significantly better by all accounts. And there's more variation among the men there: in your niche, you're less likely to be drowned out by other men for women who are into that niche. I'd recommend against a developing country move: you'll have your pick of partners, but the cultural and gender expectation gaps are huge.

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