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This is something I've been mulling over for a while: if you aren't lucky and fairly determined, as a man - maybe as a human being - you need to decide where you want the ambulances and the tragedy if you want a relationship.
This is a stage that many people pass through at one point or another, and it is admirable to have strong enough personal or religious convictions to attempt it. Maybe that means being stoically resigned to being sexually assaulted or raped because you're a somewhat awkward but physically attractive mildly autistic 17-year-old girl who wants to experience life and have a family someday. In that model, you accept that you are going to need to kiss some frogs to find your prince. And you have an immune deficiency, so you genuinely make your peace with the fact that those frog kisses are likely to lead you to a couple of hospital stays that hopefully don't give you permanent damage. Maybe it means accepting that your girlfriend might stab you because you stuck it in crazy to get whatever wisdom comes from sex or relationships; maybe it means being maimed at 48 by your wife and the mother of your three children and winding up nearly dying, losing a limb, and spending three weeks in the local ICU.
I think that this is admirable and respectable, that in ages past men and women endured similar dangers in order to be worthy, and that war for men and childbirth for women have been how these tragedies played out until very recently.
What's your take on this?
As another man who doesn't have the best go at dating in the recent past.
The hock isn't climbing the Alps. I can tell you that. The hock is talking to a hundred girls and getting rejected by 99. Sometimes 100. Then trying 100 more.
Do that and you will get infinitely more out of it than "the hock". Talk to girls in the grocery, the streets, at work, everywhere. It doesn't matter if it feels off or weird, or whatever, that's the point.
The point isn't to get a number or anything, but to rather just lose the inhibition to simply ask, such that when you really need it, you will have it.
Don't be a pussy and start with easy targets like other guys. Just dive in. Trust me it will feel like absolute shit up until its over. Then you will realize you are better off having done it than not.
Women appear more psychologically threatening than physical adversity, hence the procrastination and post-Hock rationalisation.
Mountains are static and predictable.
What a pun. Good show.
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