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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 30, 2023

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None, short of murder, violence that causes permanent or long-term physical harm, or selling them into slavery.

The breadth of parenting options should basically range from "take them to the drag show" to "don't even let them look at a person of the other gender"

This is a case where I actually genuinely believe that "Everyone gets to follow their own values" is actually legitimately superior to "everyone adheres to my values." I have parenting methods that I think are best. But those are methods for parenting MY children, made of MY genes. If everyone did them it would probably be a disaster.

I mean, there would in fact be men bringing their twelve year old son to the strip club(or brothel in a place that’s legal). And conversely there would be twelve year olds seeking employment at the strip club. You can bite the bullet on that, but uh, I don’t think it will ever be the majority position.

To the former, so be it. To the latter: There is probably a non-zero number of parents who would push their children to do so I suppose, but any employer that allowed it would probably be being watched by the FBI pretty closely. And of course, so would be anyone who attended such a strip-club. I'm also 99% sure that the parents who would make their children work as strippers probably aren't raising their children very effectively in the counterfactual world where that's illegal, they're just doing other things that are in the privacy of their own homes. All rights will inevitably be abused. That does not make the rights bad or mean we shouldn't have them.

To be clear, this implies things like truancy laws are illegitimate. Not saying that’s a checkmate but making sure I understand your position.

Yes, I would absolutely consider them illegitimate.