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This Reddit thread that I saw linked over on rDrama made me wonder if any studies have ever been done about the relative intelligence of straight people and gay people.
Just like there is reason to believe that some ethnic groups are more intelligent than others on average, is it possible that some sexual orientations are more intelligent than others on average? I have not tried to crunch the numbers, but it seems to me that gay people are overrepresented compared to their population size among the ranks of prominent intellectuals and artists. Not just recently, but also hundreds of years ago. Them living in high cost of living areas would add evidence to this theory.
Of course there are many possible other explanations, and the thread mentions some of them: gays have more money because they usually have no kids, gays in poor areas stay closeted out of fear of persecution and are drawn to liberal and usually also expensive cities, gays move in to poor areas and make them fashionable and then those areas become rich. Etc.
One other possible explanation that comes to my mind that I did not see in the thread is that maybe because it is easier for gay men to get laid than straight men on average, they don't have to devote as much of their minds as straights to getting laid and are thus free to focus on other things. I'm not sure about that theory, though - after all, just because getting laid is easy for you does not necessarily mean that you will spend less of your mental energy thinking about getting laid. And being a sexual minority could tend to add some level of stress that partly counterbalances the benefits of being able to easily get laid, especially in the olden days.
I suppose it is also possible that intelligent, creative gays are more likely to come out than intellectually mediocre gays, but I have no idea if there is any truth to that.
I do wonder, though, if maybe part of the reason for gay affluence and prominence is an actual intelligence difference of some sort.
Well, I hadn't seen a catfight over "are the gays or the straights smarter?" before, thanks for nothing. I think the very important difference there is "gay white males from middle-class backgrounds with college educations and professional jobs" are the ones living in high-price areas. The rural gay guys and the BIPOC gays are the ones living in poorer areas/the dense urban lower-class areas, and I think that there's already discussion about the white privilege/class privilege.
So the broad "gay couples are way better off than opposite-sex couples (because the gays are so much smarter and nicer and more creative and just better)" approach isn't quite accurate, even if the LGBT+ activists and allies like to use that to beat 'homophobes' over the head ('you're just jealous because you're stupid and poor and not fabulous at all!'):
(1) Gay couples do better than lesbian couples (they blame it on gender wage gap) (2) White gays do better than BIPOC gays
Yes, for any X, Black X are worse off than White X, but it doesn't follow that X vs. Y makes no difference at all.
Yes, but then that doesn't become "gay person more intelligent than straight person", it's the same old "Asian - white - Hispanic - black" breakdown.
So then you have to look at "okay, if gay men earn more than straight men, what professions are they in?" and even then, the original thread was not "are gay men richer?", it was "why do gay people live in such expensive areas?"
And I think the answer pretty much is "the expensive places are the big coastal cities; there's already the idea of a thriving gay (or whatever) culture there, so if you're closeted in a small town and you want to get out, that's where you head", plus gentrification - as described in the comments there, gays move in to places alongside/following the arty types, the area becomes trendy/happening, property values go up and so do rents, those who can afford the prices move in and those who can't move out, the prices continue to go up as the neighbourhood becomes known as the 'gayborhood' or the Latin Quarter or the artistic hot-spot and so forth.
The well-off white gays will live in the very expensive, hoity-toity areas (and probably be involved in the arts and so on, or visibly associated as patrons, fashion designers, and the like). The less well off gay guys will live in the less salubrious areas but still in the expensive city. The well-off white gays are also probably more likely to be visible, particularly in former times; you needed the insulation of wealth and status to be out (even discreetly out) and get away with it. Thomas Fancypants in the upper class circles of NY or SF or LA can be a leading socialite with a reputation for being "eccentric" or extravagant, and while everyone in the know is aware Fancypants is gay, the media will be more discreet about it - a 'lifelong bachelor' or 'longtime companion' is as overt as any reporting on his doings will get. Tommy Bluejeans from the working-class neighbourhood can't afford that kind of visibility.
It's just more visible if any particular district is the gay district and so that gives the impression that "all gays are living in the expensive, trendy areas and hence all gays are well-off" and then the discussion leaps to the conclusion that "well-off" = "more smarter than the straights" when it's a smaller sample size and self-selected for the richer section
I don't really get this chain of logic here. I get that gay villages tend to emerge in cities. But it doesn't follow that this would cause gays to become rich and cool. Somalians carve out their own little enclaves. But they become poor shitholes. When the Italians flocked to New York they didn't start outearning the native WASPs and running art salons, they formed gangs. They didn't become rich or creative. You might be right that this is just another selection effect and all the dumb gays are back at home pretending to be straight. But I think there's something more. That's not a suggestion that gays are some superior race (they're really not, if anything I think they're less accomplished than their IQ would suggest).
But not all gays, that's the thing! The original post makes it sound like "all the cool rich smart gay people" and it's not, as shown; it's the well-off white gay guys (and then presumably the well-off Asian, etc. gay guys follow).
There's plenty of shit holes and dirty, run-down gay areas; think of the legendary Stonewall Inn (the original one, at least); started off as a speakeasy and was owned by the Mafia. Not salubrious or high-class at all; gentrification comes later.
The better-off gays make a neighbourhood fancy and gentrified and it becomes high cost of living, and the poorer ones move out to another run-down area, or never left the blue-collar neigbourhoods in the first place.
It seems to come down to "white people more likely"; now that identification as LGBT+ is more widespread, common, and accepted, a lot more younger people are identifying as some variety of queer, and being younger means being poorer, as does being BIPOC:
All the coffeeshop waitstaff may be making an area cool, but they're not making it rich. That comes later with waves of gentrification and as enclaves become more established, more identified as 'the gay neighbourhood' and therefore more desirable as the place to go and live when you're leaving your small town for that life where you can be out and proud. As these places become older, the population shifts to the better-off; it's the 7 percent of gays in academia who are making places 'richer', not the 15 percent working in bars and restaurants.
Another report from 2022 on the opposite claim that LGBT+ are poorer, not rich and cool:
The white, college-educated, PMC gays are the ones living in the high-property value areas of the expensive cities. The less educated, or non-white, gays may be living in the expensive cities, but not in the high-end areas. Working there, maybe, as a grocery store clerk or waitstaff in the café. But not being patrons of the opera or attending the Met Gala as the big bucks donors.
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