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New Year's resolutions? Do you make them? Do you keep them?
This year, I am thinking of the following priorities:
I came across The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, and I agree with all of them but "I wish I hadn't worked so hard." I actually wish I was working harder and really would like to maintain a consistent daily work habit. I managed this a couple of month this year but it dropped off at the start of October. I should probably read Atomic Habits even though I feel like I will know most of it.
I have more ideas floating in my head but I won't set them as goals just yet. I should tidy up and publish a crappy project I have, just to get it out there. I should release more work in general, or build in public. I want to perform in front of an audience. I should figure out how to leverage the internet to make friends online. I should get into climbing. I want to go on a solo trip somewhere. These are more specific and I might pick some of these later to focus on, but I know for sure those two priorities above define the general direction I want to go.
No, it's too arbitrary of a label for me to buy into it. The best time to start anything was yesterday.
It's a nice checkpoint to consider the last year and strategize about the next.
You can do that now. If you need a reset of the Gregorian calendar to muster up enough will, you are fucked anyways.
Yes I can do it now, hence the post. Personally I don't think of it as strictly a 1st January thing. And the changing Gregorian calendar can provide a psychological framing that aids behavioural change.
I GET THAT !! But ask yourself who actually pulled off anything worthwhile because it was their new years resolution ? If you need soo much psycological framing, just don't do it.
I resolved to read more this year and I did read quite a lot more. That seems straightforwardly good.
I set concrete running goals and accomplished them (run X miles, run PRs, win at least one race). I might accomplish those without setting them at the beginning of a year, but having specific things to work towards helps structure the year.
What makes you think people aren't capable of doing that?
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I omitted my priorities for last year for brevity, but 2023 was a success. I think we are getting hung up on the term "new years resolution". For me, it is not some frivolous goal picked out of a hat that I don't really care about.
Your entire life is psychological framing and you shouldn't underrate it.
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