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It's easy to say this as an older gentleman. But the cloud of preposterous bullshit surrounding gender relations has only gotten thicker and thicker as I've gotten older. I fear the younger generation has no way back. When we were young bucks, "slut shaming" was an extremely online topic, and more or less every person in the real world knew that nobody loved a slut. Liked a slut sure. But nobody loves a slut. You can't make a ho into a housewife was common knowledge.
Now "slut shaming" discourse is practically part of middle school sex ed, and highschools will suspend you for having a private conversation with a buddy that a female classmate might overhear and find offensive. There was an article about just such a case, I believe in my state, but I can't seem to find it now. I'm guessing 2016-2018ish. Lying about how men regard sluts was fringe when we were growing up, now it's institutionalized.
You only see men being frank about why they wouldn't commit to a slut in stigmatized venues like Andrew Tate, the Whatever Podcast or Pearly Things. Places normies are told not to go, and told horror stories about how they are all evil, vile Nazi's that will try to seduce you into white supremacy. And frankly, it's such a marginalized view, these venues are scarcely the best advocates of it either.
You see young men talking, sheepishly, about being put off when the woman they are dating has fucked 10-20x as many partners as them, and being put off by it. They feel like it's immoral to preserve their own dignity and standards. They seek reassurance that they aren't crazy for being grossed out by it, they've been gaslit to such an extent on the topic.
And the biggest lie told about all of this is that slut shaming is something done by men, especially bitter single men, although this has never been the case anywhere in the world.
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