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Yup I've had 2 replies already that have straight up called me an alcoholic for suggesting drinking might be fun and improve your enjoyment of certain activities. Which it 100% without a doubt does. Same people would probably think I'm suicidal for skiing without a helmet or picking fights when the singing is done on south bank of the Liffey. Life is for living. Not sneering.
I feel sorry for people that don't drink, because when they wake up in the morning, that is the best they are going to feel all day-” ― Frank Sinatra/Dean Martin
No, people called you an alcoholic because you suggested drinking as a solution to someone's problems. Which I think is harsh but I get it. If someone needs alcohol to enjoy activities, then that's a strong sign of alcoholism.
I said they make them better and more enjoyable. He said he wanted to start drinking again to have more enjoyable interactions. I think it is a good idea. No one said anything about need. I was just pointing out what billions of people know already. Alcohol makes a lot of stuff more fun. Apparently that is a trigger in online rationalist adjacent spaces.
I mean I disagree with the idea that alcohol makes things more fun, as I said in another comment. But even if I did think that was true, I think that while you might not need alcohol to enjoy life, it's still bad advice to tell someone "hey if you aren't enjoying life you should drink". Because in that case, the person you are talking to would wind up needing alcohol to enjoy life and that's a terrible thing.
"Needing" a couple beers to enjoy hanging out with your buddies at a bar is not, in fact, a terrible thing. This is particularly true for definitions of "need" that aren't fully compulsive.
Well I think it is a bad thing. Since neither of us is really speaking about facts here, but about our opinions, I guess we're going to have to agree to disagree.
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He was proposing drinking in a social situation once a week. Hardly the path to addiction and death. Billions of people drink, it is because it makes them feel good and makes things more fun.
I disagree. I think that the path to addiction starts precisely in small places. Nobody starts by drinking several bottles of liquor a day. It starts when you treat alcohol as something you need to get by in this small way. Then once you normalize that, you start using it more often, or in other situations, and it snowballs from there. As such, when someone is asking for advice I think "you should drink" is always bad advice.
If you've accidentally consumed wood alcohol (methanol) you should consume hard liquor (ethanol) immediately or you could die. So sometimes it is great advice. Other times it is merely good advice. haha :)
Astutely noticing the social benefits of a few beers and using that as a way to have a healthy dose of social interaction once a week is should not make a reasonable person think, "This could be a slippery slope into becoming a crackhead! Terrible plan!". It just doesn't track.
This is starting to feel vaguely culture warish puritanical.
What about if there were no bad side effects or health risks? Are you just against altering your mental state on religious grounds or some such?
If there were no health risks I would concede it would not be bad advice. I still would think that it's better to learn to get along in life without drinking (it's seriously not hard), but at least if one isn't playing with fire then it it's not so bad. But unfortunately that isn't really the world we live in.
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