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I generally don't participate on ground level wellness Wednesdays, but I'd like to announce some personal breakthroughs!
I'm getting married! We've been engaged/planning for several months already but it's finally beginning to feel real. There are a number of hurdles to overcome, but ultimately I'm quite happy with the person I chose and that we'll be able to work together to have a healthy relationship.
I have spent my entire life perusing classical music on the professional level, and I feel like I've had personal breakthroughs with my playing. Some minor setup changes and a couple successful concerts has increased my confidence as a performer, especially from last year where I had some abysmal concerts/auditions where I was quite unhappy with how I played. I need to practice more to help increase consistency but I feel a lot more confident performing.
I finally tackled my health a bit and got back on asthma medication which has helped my lung capacity significantly. I really want to get back into exercising but time constraints/energy make it difficult. It has some strange side effects, but the upside for me outweighs any downside.
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! It'll be the adventure of a lifetime, enjoy the ride!
Thank you! It's strange that while I'm excited to be married, I'm not particularly excited about the wedding. In part because of all of my ideas basically got shut down, but also the realization it's so incredibly performative that I feel like the vast majority of it is farcical. I might get a rice cooker and a new bed out of it so that's worth it, right?
I was blessed to have a wife who also didn't really want to do the whole wedding thing, and we got away with having immediate family only, 12 people total.
I reasoned that I hated every other wedding I went to, so why would I want to waste my money on one.
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If it's a really good rice cooker then YesChad.jpg.
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Bro the wedding itself was absolute ass honestly. My wife and I both hate being the center of attention and that entire day you are the center of attention and there are so many expectations of you particularly if you come from a non-western family like I do.
Dealing with venues and vendors, who to invite, seat placements, etc. was fucking painful. Not to mention the money involved.
So it’s not weird at all that you’re excited for the marriage part instead of the wedding.
Congrats though, I’m not trying to be pessimistic just saying I feel your pain :)
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