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What is the best way to access one's value in the dating market? I haven't been single for many years and my only real dating experience in the past decade is tinder. What is the best way to judge my realistic expectations in dating?
There are many markets and your value will vary between them. App wise, if you are looking for anything serious, avoid Tinder (though it may vary by city) - I like Hinge. See who matches/responds/goes on a first date, see who goes on a second, see who makes it to a few months...I think the earlier in the pipeline there, the more it tells you about your profile and the app; the later, the more it tells you about you.
As to meeting people IRL, you'd, uh, want to ask someone else (though I'm working on it, in theory, a bit).
Some metrics are fairly objective. Height, income, even attractiveness. Personality gets more subjective, but still definitely has identifiable groups. Other than height, mostly it's things one can work on. As to where a particular set of category ratings puts you, harder to say.
You can in principle sign up as a woman and look at men's profiles, too.
At least in India, you have to go through phone number verification on the apps. All 3 of the big ones at least.
But in a pinch, set your gender to female and look for men, and you can see the competition.
Edit: As I've said before, avoid Tinder like the plague, Bumble and Hinge are far better for guys.
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