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Gaashk
35m ago
It depends.
My husband and I are both high openness introverts, who are now raising high openness introvert children. One of the children did spontaneously strike up a conversation in the check out line today with a little kid sitting in a cart. On the other hand, the response rate for cute little girls smiling and waving at a store is something like 1/20, and I would expect for a non charismatic grown man to be significantly worse (and occasionally actually negative, whereas for the kids it's at worst neutral), so that's a pretty low value situation.
The strategy of just showing up somewhere and seeing if anyone looks friendly works pretty well, even for introverts. Either way, we'll have seen a thing, wandered around, and that's fine. Or maybe there is someone friendly there, and that's even more interesting! Lots of people all over the place are more outgoing than we are, so we've had a lot of interesting experiences this way. We just have to go take a nap afterwards. But we are all very high Openness in the Big 5 sense, so ymmv.
SubstantialFrivolity
I'm not even supposed to be here today
35m ago
Monthly payment all-in is $2200 and expected to go up due to property values increasing.
I'm guessing you mean from taxes? That's a factor for sure, but it's going to be so minuscule that it isn't even worth talking about. The assessed value of my home went up by like 75% in the past year, and it's going to mean an extra couple hundred dollars on our monthly payment. Compared to the value you will get from selling the house later on, that's nothing imo.
BahRamYou
36m ago
Because a lot of guys don't want to do prostitution, but are not necessarily interested in jumping into a long-term relationship? We want casual dating, and that's just a brutal market for anyone who's not hyper competitive in the sexual marketplace.
BahRamYou
39m ago
I don't think you're a loser. If nothing else, your writing shows intelligence and apparently you've got enough money drop hundreds for a date. That alone puts you above most guys.
I think the modern western dating world is just heavily stacked against what men want. The well of normal flirting has been utterly poisoned by PUAs and feminism. People expect dating to happen "online" now, which means all you have is your photos and like one paragraph of text, competing against other men who have carefully curated those photos and that paragraph, and bored women swiping through hundreds of those profiles while they watch TV. That's just a terrible environment to try and be sexy.
For what it's worth, you can definitely hire a local photographer to take better photos of you. Anyone halfway competent should be able to help you with things like getting good lighting, stand naturally, look near the camera but not straight at it, angle up to make you look taller, etc. Those are all little things but they add up. If you're a male nerd you probably don't spend a lot of time obsessing over your social media photos but the attractive women all do so they notice these things.
The civil rights movement was after equality of outcome from the start. Most of the things one finds bad about modern black identity politics existed there. If anything, the original movement was more violent against white people.
You could argue that parts of the broader society that helped the movement on some areas might have had more limited goals, or that they had then more so legitimate grievances too, but the reality is the core movement and a figure like MLK would be all in favor of the modern woke types, and he would be insinuating that opposition as he did as the time with contemporary republicans are nazis, racists, etc. It simply wasn't a movement with just limited goals.
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