5434a
6hr ago
A more useful comparison would have used generated images of women in their forties.
There is a fairly clear problem with the site only offering images of early 20s looking women who are almost all 7s or above and broadly euro-centric in terms of facial structures (I didn't see much in the way of eg aquiline noses or thick lips in there, even in the "gorgeous but not your type" images). It's understandable why they would set it up like that but it could result in a mistaken impression of attraction being a binary split between "algorithmically honed to perfection" and "invisible".
It's a bit ironic given that one of the articles in the site's blog talks about peaks and plateaus of comparative attractiveness, but then the entire mechanism of the main site is geared towards circling in on your one ultimate peak type aged 20-23. On the other hand it's early days and I imagine it's not hard for them to add in extra rounds of selection with additional variables to help expand a user's central peak into a broader set of peaks.
5434a
6hr ago
Hard to say. Partially an element of familiarity breeding contempt re blondness which makes it less special. Similar thing with blue or green eyes. I think the same thing happens in reverse where dark-haired ethnicities seem to perceive more value in blonde hair/blue eyes. I could guess that there's some latent evolutionary out-breeding heterozygous mechanism at play, maybe.
Same deal with gingers but with an extra layer of cultural bias. I don't know if it's a hangover from anti-Irish sentiment but there was a pronounced playground culture of picking on gingers when I was a kid. On the other hand given that the cultural message of "blondes = sexy" had no effect on me it's hard to give that aspect too much weight. Plus gingers have a tendency to have curlier hair which is something I don't find attractive regardless of hair colour.
In terms of a "type" I find black women and gingers distinctly less attractive, whereas blondes are merely nothing special and, in my eyes, get comprehensively trounced by women with thicker/darker hair. I can still recognise that those less attractive women are "pretty", they just don't give me any spark or traction in the more literal sense.
5434a
4d ago
I bought a paper planner to reduce my doomscrolling and, honestly, I like the aesthetics and it makes easier to visualize what I have to do.
Planning is good but equally as useful is keeping a diary of short notes that record non-routine objective accomplishments no matter how small (within reason). For example this date last year I was doing preventative maintenance to our garden fence. It's helpful when you're wondering where all the time has gone and you have a record of life's many forgettable but constructive completed tasks to refer to. Reviewing what you've done is a lot more satisfying than staring at what you still need to do.
Personally I really rate using OneNote/Obsidian or a similar note taking app over paper. I tried notepads, index cards, whiteboards and other paper formats before but it turns into a lot of re-writing when you want to do something as simple as edit a list to add or remove items. Having features like adding images or tables that you can insert rows and columns ad hoc is very useful.
I'd set yourself a time limit on any psych meds, or at least a review and reassessment. You don't want to end up relying on them long term if it's not absolutely necessary.
Good luck.
5434a
4d ago
It's humour, not making sense is what makes it funny. Anybody saying it with sincerity is doubly funny for not getting the joke.
Genuinely paying a woman to go away is better fitted to an acrimonious divorce.
5434a
5d ago
This is a bit of a tangent but I heard (yet another) news programme this morning where somebody here in the UK complained of receiving online death threats, and it struck me that I've never heard of anyone being arrested for making online death threats. I've heard of the (yes, probably cherry picked) examples of people being arrested for misgendering, or today's story of someone being arrested for saying Nigerians should be melted down and used to fill potholes, but never for the apparent epidemic of threatened rape and death. Does it not happen, or is it merely not reported because it's downstream of the far more controversial culture wars?
"Your type: No tattoos, big naturals". Uncanny!
Would be a lot quicker if I could just nix black women, gingers and blondes right from the off.
How does the rarity rating work? I can't understand what "how rare everyone finds each" signifies. What does someone finding a face "1 in 2" and me finding the same face "1 in 400" mean?
[Edit] I guess "x in y" etc is another phrasing of percentiles, ie 1 in 2 would be 50th percentile. Labelling them as rarity is confusing, for example dark hair is comparatively common but that doesn't make me like it any less.
5434a
7d ago
I might not have phrased that very well. When I say patterns I mean like blue-green-blue-green-blue, or maybe words that have palindromic colours but not letters. Not literal graphic patterns.
Can you describe what is good/bad about xylophone, elephant and Christmas?
5434a
7d ago
Are there any words that are particularly pretty/ugly/interesting due to the colours, or the pattern of the colours? Like maybe there's one that makes a rainbow, or an alternating -_-_-_- pattern or something like that.
5434a
8d ago
Looks like semaglutide would be a fairly easy improvement. Is it perfect? No. Is it better than what you have? Yes. And that's probably an attitude that could benefit you instead of the all-or-nothing idea of becoming exceptional.
Virgin how? You're gay and living in the age of smartphone apps. If you haven't hooked up with anyone that's because you've chosen not to. That's fine, it's your choice, but if you're waiting for that to be "perfect" too, and thinking it won't be perfect until you're perfectly ready for it to be perfect then it's going to continue to not happen. Sometimes hook ups can even become good friends too. And if it all goes sideways then at least you might gain some of those stories you're currently lacking.
I want to become physically fit, attractive, well-dressed, knowledgeable, cultured, and socially confident.
You have to start failing actively instead of passively and embrace and iterate on your mistakes. I've been doing some woodwork in the past week. Would I like it to be beautiful heirloom quality? Of course! But it's turning out as chipped and wonky shit despite my best efforts. That's okay because it's pretty much what I'm expecting given my constraints and the end product does what I need it to. I'm also getting better and the things I did this week went better than the things I did last week. If I hadn't made those mistakes I'd still be un-improved and staring at a clutter of useless timber instead of useful albeit imperfect items, including some extra tools and jigs that I've had to make that then feed back into better quality productions.
You have to work with what's available. Seek out and exploit the most opportunities that you can out of your job/course/situation. You can't work with the friends that you don't have and the career that you don't have and the parties that you don't have any more than I can work with the 400sqft workshop that I don't have.
5434a
12d ago
If anyone wants a real haunted tech story look up the Darknet Diaries episode about dodgy Android TV boxes.
https://darknetdiaries.com/episode/172/
https://krebsonsecurity.com/2025/11/is-your-android-tv-streaming-box-part-of-a-botnet/
Like a hardware version of a Trojan horse.
5434a
17d ago
Yeah I said weeks for a reason. It's a process of creating new connections in your brain in order to bypass the control from the slow and clumsy conscious and deliberate control of movements to the fast and fluid autopilot. Like learning to touch type. The screwy part about juggling is you can't slow down to decrease the difficulty like you could if you were learning to play an instrument or something like that. You can throw the balls a little higher but that's of limited usefulness. There's definitely a learning wall from practicing what feels like stupid baby time-wasting 2-out-of-3 ball juggling to adding in the third ball and not having enough hands free anymore.
I fucked it up and learnt how to do it wrong the first time so I had to unlearn that at the same time.
It's worth sticking with if you have the patience though. The first time I successfully made the full rotation of a really challenging pattern it literally felt like my brain was throwing the switch on a whole new path of neurons that had finally connected. Most pronounced natural high I've ever had.
There's a whole mathematical notation for the patterns if you really get into it but I bounced off that aspect.
5434a
21d ago
The facehuggers are the males, at least symbolically. They violently penetrate and deposit an embryo inside a reluctant host where after gestation it then bursts out of the distended abdomen. Plus - as you note - they're disposable.
Biologically it's not one to one but it's sci-fi horror, not a science textbook.
5434a
21d ago
And the ship's computer in Alien is called Mother, if that counts.
Funny, I've just looked up the Bechdel Test on Wikipedia and the original comic strip that spawned the term explicitly references Alien.
5434a
24d ago
[the death] was caused by the hyaluronic acid injection
That's just pumping it full of cosmetic lip filler to make it a bit wider with the caveat that the additional width will be soft and squishy. I've seen photos of people who have pumped their dick excessively full of synthol too but it looks less like a big dick and more like a rugby ball with a puncture.
Point is that it's hard enough to alter one type of man or woman's body into another type of man or woman's body even with all the inherent similarities.
5434a
25d ago
If having a small penis is something to be ashamed of that's more incentive to crack the problem of making a small penis bigger. 50% of men have a smaller than average penis. The potential market is, ahem, sizeable.
5434a
25d ago
If it's feasible to fashion an entire penis from no-penis-at-all, why aren't dick enhancements as common as breast enhancements?
There's a clear strain of denialism and wishful thinking around physical gender transitioning, both surgical and endocrine, that sells it as being as good as the real thing. Meanwhile away from the transgender sphere people deal with all manner of complications around relatively simple and far more common procedures within those same realms of medicine, whether it's nose jobs, butt lifts, HRT or cosmetic dentistry.
The male genitals in their entirety are rearranged into female genitals
Rearranged yes, female no. This is three card monte rhetoric. I'll be charitable and grant that they are rearranged into feminine genitals. You raise objections to imprecise language and then use the same means to smuggle in your own favourable biases.
5434a
28d ago
It can be answered like an autist or a normie and they're both bad. The autist says "reprogramming microchips to emulate Soviet counting machines". The normie says "I like going out, and I also enjoy staying in". The first would be better phrased as something like "I love figuring out how machines work and then making them do new things they were never made to do" and the second as something like "nothing beats curling up with a new episode of Popularity Contest after I've taken my poochie-pie to brunch at the puppy parlour".
What the listener needs is a demonstration of your personality and your lifestyle, and since the question is about fun it should be relatively playful. It's a show, don't tell affair. Tone as much as content. You present it in a manner to show what appeals to you and what appeals about you. Bottom line the answer itself should be fun and personal instead of being either a dry report or an answer so general that it could describe almost anyone. The objective is to find/offer ways that you can better relate to the other person, not literalist fact-gathering or milquetoast bet-hedging.
5434a
1mo ago
The Liberal Elmo clip is a total classic. I could never get into any of the other clips I've heard.
5434a
1mo ago
And different classes too. It's all over the place. That's what makes it fun, you're pushed and pulled between multiple competing accents while trying to read and not-read it in your own voice.
5434a
1mo ago
I think I can take the credit for that one. Only a man can be a transwoman, therefore transwomen are not women. QED.
Of course there are potentially imaginable counterarguments but they require such a degree of semantic deconstruction that there's nothing left for reassembling afterwards, rendering them moot.
Like almost any genre there's a handful of tracks/albums I like but I've never been into it. I just don't understand what it's for. It's always seemed oddly aesthetically reserved. It doesn't rock as much as rock, it's not as groovy as funk, not as sophisticated as jazz or classical, not as party rockin' as dance music, not as rebellious as punk, and so on. It comes across a little like music for people who look down their nose at music.
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