Folamh3
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Folamh3
4d ago
One of the most recent videos is by Andrew Callaghan interview
I heard he was MeToo'd awhile back, did anything come of that?
Folamh3
25d ago
And if a girl is so drunk that she's drifting in and out of consciousness, how can she consent?
Folamh3
25d ago
This term is, in fact, controversial - at least in the discourse space you and I are participating in. It is, in fact, an extremely tendentious framing, and I do in fact reject it. (The mere fact that the “age of consent” differs so dramatically between different jurisdictions worldwide illustrates that people do in fact disagree substantially about the validity of the framing.)
In Bahrain, a man who violently rapes a woman can escape all legal culpability if he agrees to marry her. The fact that Bahrainis "disagree substantially about the validity of the framing" (namely, that rape is a heinous and despicable crime, and not just because it may be harder for the victim to find a husband) does not give me cause to update my views on rape or reject the conventional western framing.
Folamh3
23d ago
Speaking as a guy who's had sex with my fair share of women who were pleasantly tipsy at the time, I can assure you and Tyre_Inflator that I'm not advocating for a situation in which any man who's had sex with a woman who's had so much as a mouthful of sherry can be hauled off to jail at the drop of a hat. But I think it's intuitively obvious to essentially any sensible person when a woman is too drunk to give meaningful consent. If a woman is so drunk you have to practically carry her home from the bar, you know damn well you shouldn't be having sex with her - don't play dumb.
Folamh3
7d ago
The kernel of truth at the center of this is that even men who are objectively, even wildly, sexually successful can still harbor the sexual resentment that sits at the core of the incel label.
I acknowledge that the phenomenon you're describing is real, but I wish we had separate terms for "men who resent women because they can't get laid" and "men who can get laid, but resent women because of lingering grievances brought about from earlier rejections".
Folamh3
25d ago
Would it be rape to have sex with someone who was asleep? Comatose? Sedated? I think almost everyone would say yes.
Folamh3
15d ago
Heck, if you look at ratios of civilian casualties -- as I've seen some argue makes Israel's actions unjustified -- America had almost none (generally counted as a few thousand if you include territories and civilian ship crews). The British claim 70,000. More civilians than that died in the Battle of Berlin alone, and Allied bombing campaigns killed hundreds of thousands. Not to mention the nuclear weapons.
I have trouble embracing the progressive worldview on Gaza because those same principles, applied to WWII, would have me side with the Axis powers.
To quote myself:
Freddie deBoer confuses me on this point, because he was once writing about the Israel-Palestine conflict and stated “Between a high, solid wall and an egg that breaks against it, I will always stand on the side of the egg. Yes, no matter how right the wall may be and how wrong the egg.”
But he has also argued repeatedly that "punching up" and "punching down" is a meaningless framework through which to look at humour, interpersonal relationships or anything else.
If I'm reading this correctly, he means that in a conflict between a weaker party ("egg") and a stronger party ("high, solid wall"), he will always take the side of the weaker party, even if they're wrong and the stronger party is right. Which logically implies that, were Hamas ever to gain the upper hand, Freddie would immediately start supporting Israel. It likewise implies that he ought to have supported the Axis powers in the second world war.
Folamh3
21d ago
Years ago I saw the trailer for an indie comedy film wherein two straight men pretend to be gay in order to get women into bed. Their reasoning is that if they present themselves as gay, women will let their guard down around them. Then they can announce "oh my God, I'm so attracted to you, I've never been attracted to a woman before", and the woman in question will be so flattered that she'll go to bed with the guy.
Is it reasonable of me to assume that any straight man who describes himself as "demisexual" is pulling exactly the same kind of long con, but more subtle?
Folamh3
21d ago
I'm thinking of one specific guy I know, who describes himself as "demisexual" and yet admits to watching porn. Not an OnlyFans girl with whom he has the plausible deniability of claiming that he knows her intimately (or the character she's playing) - just regular ol' XVideos.
If you need to get to know someone before you feel sexually attracted to them - how can you jerk off to porn? I don't get it.
Folamh3
11d ago
To be fair, he could well have changed his mind in the intervening two years.
Folamh3
15d ago
the stronger one gets the backlash because they are the ones committing the attrocities.
I find the use of the definite article here fascinating.
Amputating a few fingers is somewhat more invasive than putting a hairdryer in your car. But it's the same principle, right?
I don't see how placing a hairdryer in your car violates Primum non nocere.
It amazes me to think that I once found Scott's argument in "the categories were made for man" persuasive. Rationalists are all about defining words in ways which "cleave reality at the joints", and yet Scott apparently thinks that "anyone who claims membership in this category" is a better definition of "woman" than "adult human female".
do indeed appear to improve after taking them
Well, some and some. From my understanding, having read Jesse Singal's deep dives into this issue, the evidence base is a lot more mixed than trans activists would have us believe.
If A is evidence for B, B should be evidence for A, yes? "One man’s modus ponens is another man’s modus tollens?" If we took this case being a novel case of unnecessary amputation as evidence that trans ideology has thoroughly captured the medical system, or something like that, and then we observe that this isn't novel - I think we should doubt the reasoning that led to the claim of ideological capture.
If you have examples of cases of bodily integrity disorder being treated with amputation prior to the modern trans activist movement, I would love to see them. Or perhaps I should say - what gives me pause is not that amputations for sufferers of bodily integrity disorder are being carried out, but that they're being carried out using precisely the same reasoning that "gender-affirming care" providers use to justify removing breasts and penises.
It's true that the men who are most receptive to feminist messaging are overwhelmingly those who already know exactly what the term "rape" entails and would never dream of committing it. It's equally true that feminists are not tilting at windmills when they talk about the importance of teaching men not to rape. There really are men (and boys) who believe that a woman who dresses provocatively is "asking for it", that a man taking advantage of a woman who's so drunk that she's drifting in and out of consciousness doesn't constitute rape, that married men are entitled to have sex with their wives whenever they damn well please. These attitudes may not be as common as they used to be, they may be far more common among "men of colour" and working-class men than among the middle- to upper-class white men who seem to attract so much ire from feminists - but they do exist. The people who hold them may be weak men, but they are not straw men.
On a more general note, "the people paying attention to the message are the people who don't need to hear it" is probably a problem common to essentially all political activism in democratic societies.
The Axis powers were not the weaker party in WW2. They invaded and defeated various countries that were weaker than them.
It can simultaneously be true that Germany is stronger than Poland and that the USA is stronger than Germany.
I replied to you prior to your edit - I'm just about as aggressively anti-communist and anti-Soviet as they come.
Folamh3
17d ago
I mean, the leg amputated in the 1990s I quoted above.
Sorry, I missed that.
I'm not claiming it has no relationship to trans activism, just that "The Anglophone medical establishment appears to be fully ideologically captured" isn't a justified conclusion from this particular amputation and a single paper connecting BID to transgender people.
Fair point.
I live in Ireland and still get my fair share of slagging. A few years ago I could hardly leave the house without someone pointing at me and saying "hey look lads, Ed Sheeran's on tour!" but that dropped off after I lost weight.
Folamh3
9d ago
And is it really possible for an intelligent human to both understand a book like Crime and Punishment and read it and be emotionally indifferent to it?
Why not? There are lots of stories which I understand perfectly well but which leave me cold.
Folamh3
11d ago
let me know if anything actually happens
Folamh3
17d ago
I will caution you that if you buy a hard copy of Lost Girls, do not read it on the bus. People will assume that you're reading child pornography, and with good reason.
Update regarding the kerfuffle surrounding Biden declaring March 31st the Trans Day of Visibility. Zero Hedge reports that Biden himself has no recollection of doing so.
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