George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
The things you lean on / are things that don't last
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George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
16d ago
Out of curiosity and you don't have to answer: Did your military service contribute to this pacifism?
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
16d ago
That isn't my point.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
17d ago
With a bit of narrative distance and perhaps confidence you could write a novel set in this area. Avoid any AI help, keep the rich detail, maybe throw in a love triangle or violence, or if you prefer, something dystopian. Just a thought.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
17d ago
Was this, as you say, 10 years ago or recent? Ten years ago is 2015. My opinion on everyone's behavior is the same, but for you I want to reassure you to forget about that, it's history, it doesn't matter, it has nothing to do with you now.
I'm the sort of interfering avuncular figure who will give all sorts of advice in women and will be pointedly aggressive in telling you what to do/not do, and take it all very loosely and saltily, byt that's my first bit of advice. Forget decades-old bad interactions.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
18d ago
Do unattended males tend toward more antisocial behavior? My experience is that men in packs are rather the ones to keep away from, or be leery of. Or avoid entirely. Especially when drunkasses. Unless you're in a trenchcoat in summer carrying a duffelbag or something really suspicious. Lone man at bar, since when is that a red flag? Odd.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
18d ago
Just to insert a congratulations on the kid. I remember a discussion a while ago tangentially related and I'm glad it worked out well!
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
18d ago
Hard core.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
18d ago
I hate running and used to run on a team so I know I hate it. But if you're fap free and young you'll need that physical exertion/exhaustion as a counterbalance. I think all these are fine though I don't know what Chores spreadsheet might have on it. I hate spreadsheets of that sort (I prefer a legal pad, or just doing the goddam chore) but whatever. I'd also in addition to these add something about being social. All of these sound very solitary. Fit in real life people.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
18d ago
I'm now wondering what the redhead"s problem was aside from garden variety psychopathy. I've never found a workable solution to female histrionics (the Jake Gittes slap has been out of play for many decades now) and I sympathize with what sounds like a stupidly harrowing experience. A barfight would be less traumatic. Well except for that possibility of dying or being permanently maimed. No, maybe a barfight would've been worse.
In any case the only solution to this is personal resolve to keep moving forward and allowing time to do its thing. Avoid too low a profile. The current year ability to stay in ones room and get one's rocks off to a live thot (via camgirls, etc.) is toxic to real human interaction and I encourage you to eschew that route and stay out among humans as much as possible.
From the sound of it you've got something going on that is attractive to at least some females to whom you would be attractive. That's a good thing. Remember humor--that is to say finding humor in situations --is gold, if you can manage it. Humor both armors you and disarms your opponent.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
19d ago
Has no one here been in the military?!
I haven't, so that's at least one. I did join the Peace Corps right after Gulf 1, which was my halfass way of serving without having the prospect of killing anyone. I think a few members have definitely served and have posted about it, but possibly didn't see this thread or assumed anything to do with reddit wasn't worth replying to.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
19d ago
I once read a JM Coetzee book (Disgrace) that spelled the adjective "Loth" and I still haven't gotten over it.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
I will let my comment be: I'm glad you got yourself away from this person. Hopefully no lasting damage to you.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
Fucking hell.
Good story. Mine:
Okinawan girl. Twenty maybe 21. Probably 20. I was around 34 (Sue me, cancel me, etc.) She was gorgeous, funny, got my humor or at least laughed convincingly, and had a really nice, um, well, body. Like she could have been on the beer posters holding up a frosty glass wearing a bikini, that type. Really proficient at English. This would've been my 3rd or so year in Japan. The image of her returning from the washroom standing in my bedroom doorway in a state of complete undress is burned pleasantly into my memory. If my memories eventually all fall away, I hope that's one of the last ones. But let's not get tawdry. Anyway eventually there we were, an hour or two later, and as I reached that sublime moment I looked up and there she was poised over me laughing. "I've seen your happy face," she said. I felt as if this were an admission of larceny.
I saw her again a few more times until I didn't. She had a guy in the US military back home (whenever he was in port I guess). I always completely ignored any declaration of boyfriend back in the day as simple noise from mouth and utterly irrelevant (unless I knew him of course). But it complicated matters. Point being I never did know how to process that moment. It seemed, I don't know, disrespectful somehow. I will admit I no longer hold women to the standard I once may have (specifically: Well I'd never do that to you type reactiveness) but it was weird.
Edit: Linked image is obviously dated, but roughly from the same era.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
(dossier updated)
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
Interesting, I would expect 10 to have yesses all around. Perhaps I should find more humor in coitus.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
Ok let's do a quiz. In which of the following scenarios would you either judge someone as having committed a faux pas, or wouldn't immediately think less of someone who did judge:
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Man wearing hat inside someone else's house (ok cap, it doesn't have to be a bowler or whatever)
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Girl applying make-up on a public train full of people.
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Hawking a big throaty loogie and setting it free via a big spit off the train platform while waiting for the train.
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wearing white socks with a dark suit
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woman going bra-less at her friend's wedding
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walking barefoot in a mall (in a landlocked town)
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bikini top in a restaurant (enclosed)
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striped necktie with plaid shirt
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speaking while chewing food
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laughing after your partner's orgasm
These are in no order. Your answers will be entered into your permanent record.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
Great stuff, thanks.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
Reddit is to my gears as a big bag of unshelled peanuts and gravel would be if thrown, bag and all, into a fine clockwork. There is only grinding. Short extremely niche subs, I can't stand visiting the site.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
CBS gymnastics
Not that there's an abiding difference but I believe you meant NBC gymnastics.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
Thank you for that!
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
21d ago
Wow, someone has read it! Thanks. I'm a completist and they're pretty short so I'll probably read the lot, but thank you.
Do you have any Lovecraft recommendations? I've only read one (The Dunwich Horror) but I think I could probably get into his writing. Of course Chambers isn't Lovecraft but there's a thread there.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
22d ago
Don't leave very young kids alone in bath tubs that have any amount of water in them.
I came home first after walking from Elementary school and just opened the door because it was unlocked almost all the time. We never had a break-in.
Lest this seem too idyllic, my parents did start locking up when an old woman up the street was murdered in a home invasion.
I do simply to save time. It knows my diet and quite a bit about my recent and historical medical results and it's easier not to have to remind it. If I were more cautious about privacy I wouldn't.
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