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Wellness Wednesday for June 4, 2025

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

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One of my problems in general, but certainly when it comes to self improvement/wellness is trying to do too much at once. For example, here is my list of goals for this month:

• Chores spreadsheet

• 400k words read Spanish

• 2 substack posts

• Read 3000 pages total (~100/day, roughly 8-10 books).

• 4 Spanish gramar exercises

• Up 3k spanish Anki cards, 500 italian Anki cards

• 300 minutes of meditation total (average 10 min/day)

• 20 days fap free

• Swim 4 days a week

• Build to 50 miles a week running

• Savings rate of at least 20%

This + goals at work seems to overwhelm me. Are there specific goals in this list that you think I should focus on? Things that I should cut? Is there a better way to approach goal setting in general?

I hate running and used to run on a team so I know I hate it. But if you're fap free and young you'll need that physical exertion/exhaustion as a counterbalance. I think all these are fine though I don't know what Chores spreadsheet might have on it. I hate spreadsheets of that sort (I prefer a legal pad, or just doing the goddam chore) but whatever. I'd also in addition to these add something about being social. All of these sound very solitary. Fit in real life people.

Chores spreadsheet basically just means doing my chores on time. I've got stuff like changing kombucha and yoghurt cultures and dusting/vacuuming that have longish time horizons that would be better if I spread them out, hence the spreadsheet.

Hard core.