Ioper
2mo ago
On a slightly different note, what do you guys spend your money on?
I have a very high savings rate primarily because there isn't really anything I want to spend my money on. The only major expense I see among peer that I don't have is traveling.
Ioper
5mo ago
Good foreplay only makes it worse.
Also, regardless of whether the sex ends in orgasm or not, the sex is so much better without a condom. The goal is as intimate and pleasurable sex as possible, condoms are a major impediment to both, with or without orgasm.
Ioper
5mo ago
I'm honestly a little worried about the direction Open AI is taking lately, going headlong into AGI research while being hypervigilant about woke microaggressions
I'm not so sure I am, it seems to severely hamper the performance of their model. If they keep going down this path they will be overtaken.
Ioper
6mo ago
Also you can easily find reluctant heroes/leaders. Moses, King Arthur, Brutus in Caesar etc.
I don't think it as common as it is today but it's hardly unheard of either.
The men who don't... will just not reproduce and die off.
I'm not so sure. You have to desire women, sure, but care about what they want? Only a bit.
My experience is that being (relative) high value and signaling interest is much more effective than 'caring' about what someone wants. The same goes for friendships. People want to be desired by high value people, they don't want servants. They want a at least an equal exchange in status, but most likely an increase (or the perception of an increase).
Once you're in a relationship things obviously change a bit.
Ioper
11mo ago
- white collar crime / ‘non violent crime’ can almost always be punished with alternatives to prison like asset seizure, wage garnishing, industry bans and so on.
If you define this are most offenders, sure. If you define it as most white collar crime in amount of money or amount of people affected then no. These people are very good at hiding assets and using patsies. Some people are just committed to building their life around being anti-social, whether that is through violence or white collar stuff,and punishments don't deter them but locking them away can prevent them from hurting others and society at large.
I think a reason a perception of lazy and uninterested doctors you have to fight with in order to get (the correct) treatment sometimes persist is because the first point of contact for many are GPs and GPs often are the bottom of the barrel of doctors and the most jaded and working under unreasonable time constraints since they act as gate keepers to the rest of the medical system.
Once you actually meet a specialist its like another world. People are (generally) interested, competent and trying to help.
Competent and sympathetic GPs of course do exist but many (most in my impression honestly) really are quite bad, people who either couldn't hack it elsewhere, incompetent immigrants of dubious credentials and people who've just checked out. If anyone's on the AI chopping block it's these guys.
If thats who you're mostly interacting with then what is your impression going to be?
Ioper
4mo ago
Have you actually interacted with these men at all? They are not dependable. At some point people become a negative value proposition for anyone that isn't desperate and it isn't the welfare state thats making women not desperate, its being able to work.
Oh well, at least it gets me more head, I've had a number of women tell me that it was a relief compared to the finely marinated stench of smegma.
Whenever stuff like this comes up I'm left wondering, who the fuck doesn't wash his dick?
I read an interview with a Swedish expert who, while being negative about death penalties in general, was similarly confused about how long it took and all the reported thrashing, which goes against all experience with industrial accidents where people pass out and die very quickly without they themselves or their nearby colleages realising what's going on.
Something clearly went wrong here.
The vast majority of people around me can cook, although it's notable just how much better the men are. I know one woman my age that is actually a good cook but every other guy seems to be.
One major difference seems to be that the guys cook even when they're alone.
Perhaps it's just the bubble I'm in.
Ioper
4mo ago
That assumes the repair is logged or discovered. Perhaps shoddy black market repairs is or has been an issue in Poland?
Obviously this doesn't apply when there the maintainance contract gets transferred like here.
I've already been in church for a morning nativity play and in a few hours we're going to have a Julbord with the family.
New for this year's celebration in Sweden was that in addition to the traditional Disney cartoon reel there was a similar thing put together but with traditional live action Astrid Lindgren Christmas stories and some newer animated stuff. Pretty nice imo and i feel like something like this might have a better future than the somewhat dated and historically unconnected Disney cartoons tradition that I feel like its on the way out.
Ioper
5mo ago
The only people I've heard offer apolagia for them (from a non-std prevention pov) are circumcised men, which leads me to believe that there is a connection.
Ioper
6mo ago
You don't mean strengthlevel.com?
Ioper
9mo ago
What you describe are also actionable ways for someone to improve themselves.
No, being high value is being high value. You're high value to yourself, to other men and to women. Why? Because you provide value and this is broadly useful.
The point is to avoid focusing on what women want because that distorts and ruins your ability to evaluate things. If you focus on improving you'll be better off regardless of whether women like you better or not. Impressing women isn't the only reason to do things, it's one reason among many. People are looking for shortcuts to get ahead in life but that usually doesn't work very well, whether that is for impressing women, making friends or getting ahead in your career.
I'm married with kids but it's still as useful to me to be seen as high value by society around me as it was when I was 18 and single, because both the perception of high value and actual high value is useful.
But this whole experience has made me realize it's almost impossible to effectively manage a large group of people. All I can do is use my programming skills to automate as much of these issues away as possible because people defend their little areas like crazy and are resistant to change. I don't even understand why I care because this is literally impossible. I guess I should just give up and not give a shit and collect a paycheck like everyone else.
It is absolutely possible, but there certainly are dysfunctional organisations where it's difficult and maybe even impossible (although I've never seen this).
The problems you describe do not sound that bad honestly, perhaps you're underselling the issues you're having.
Ioper
11mo ago
That is the point, they keep posing a threat. Industry bans, wage garnishing and asset siezures most often don't do anything to stop reoffenders.
Ioper
10d ago
I've always thought of this as a class issue. The educated class imparts the knowledge of which degrees are ok to their kids while the working class gets taken for a ride by the education industrial complex, ending up with useless or unfinished degrees, a bunch of debt, a sense of failure and missed earnings.
Ioper
30d ago
Making up for lost time and brighter expectations of the future I'd imagine.
It's not like the war period was good to Sweden or free of stress and worry, Sweden was both economically depressed and cut off from much trade. It was the post war period with intact industry and great demand for both raw materials and goods that was good.
All status isn't relative to the people around you at a given moment but also to what people have previously experienced. If tides are rising quickly then almost everyone is going to be perceived as higher status than before.
I feel like this misses the case where the "real" and psychosomatic overlap.
There are some conditions that are "real" but rare and their "popularity" far outstrips the rate of the sufferers of the "real"/"physical" condition. Here we have things like various exotic mental disorders/syndromes, pain conditions, digestive disorders, allergies, fatigue conditions (most recently long COVID), auto immune disorders and transexualism.
Also, people who have the conditions likely have some of the conditions that causes psychosomatic symptoms similar to the condition, often because the condition itself causes or encourages behaviour leading to depression, anxiety, inactivity and or isolation.
How does a doctor tell whats going on? How does the social security system? How does the general public? How does the person themself?
As soon as something like this goes mainstream it inevitably gets dragged down in partisan politics.
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