I’ve done a bunch of single player as well, but glossed over it in the post. In fact I stopped competitive gaming altogether during my lull in gaming, but would still occasionally binge a good rpg like fallout or Skyrim.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 1mo ago

I definitely agree that gaming is an entire medium, with a world of difference in terms of how you engage.

I thought I was done with gaming hard, until I got a boring hybrid corporate job where I have no hope of advancing due to outsourcing. I get my basic tasks done during the workday, then I game. It’s not perfect but it works for me for now hehe.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 1mo ago

Ahh funny when I sent this through an AI to proofread, it changed it to the apparently correct version, and I changed it back. Good to know!

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 1mo ago

Is that a bad thing? Society being more feminised has led to a drastic reduction in everyday violence. I’m glad there was no serious physical bullying when I went to high school, judging by older generations and media depictions, it was rampant and traumatic.

Depends on your view. Personally I think it's horrifically bad for men, and bad for society overall over time. Yes everyday violence has decreased, but deaths of despair and general malaise are on the rise, lack of social cohesion, lack of plain role models and legible life paths for people to follow. Much of this is related to the dearth of the masculine.

Do you think masculinity as a whole is bad or evil?

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 1mo ago

Idk if I'd say comfortable necessarily, but I think the vast majority of men throughout human history related this way. It's only recently as we have become extremely feminized as a society that it stopped. Nowadays, I'd hazard a guess but over 50% I'd imagine in the U.S. Far greater worldwide.

Not sure I can explain it to an autistic person, but it's basically something like - you're fighting for status but in a fun way? I'm sure there are better explanations out there. I'm not sure I get it myself tbh.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 1mo ago

Probably a skill issue. Ideally you just learn to move more loosely over time with the dance. For me the more nervous/tense I hold my frame the more exhausted I get.

Alcohol also can help, if that's your thing.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 1mo ago

Congrats! We are getting married in October so no advice yet, other than I have also had nerves. I know how it goes. Most people say it's quite normal, especially if you're somewhat anxious.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 1mo ago

Emotions and trauma inform a lot of decision making. Many ppl are blind to it.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 2mo ago

Yeah very much agreed. I love the Motte but most folks here have a huge blindspot when it comes to attachment, trauma, and emotions more generally.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 2mo ago

Yeah couldn’t agree more with this comment. The reasoning around it is all so flawed - to me it’s orders of magnitude more likely to be a lab leak just looking at the basic facts. Crazy how people wrap themselves into knots trying to prove it wasn’t.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 2mo ago

This doesn’t feel AI generated to me. I liked it.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 2mo ago

Started rereading The Dresden Files after my fiancés uncle kept raving about it. It’s a fun romp so far, though I had to laugh at all the “science hasn’t solved disease, or starvation, or war.” I’m religious myself, but science has a strong case for mostly solving all three of those.

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ThomasdelVasto Κύριε, ποίησόν με ὄργανον τῆς ἀγάπης σου 2mo ago

Oh I didn’t mean lying to the woman!!! More like finding a female companion to spend your life with, but you both are aware and have other arrangements on the side.

Idk it sounds like you understand the complementary nature of men and women, so I wasn’t sure if you’d considered a more platonic life partnership, something like that.