bolido_sentimental
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bolido_sentimental
12d ago
"I am not as brave as my wife."
This was a red flag to me. I think this entire fundamental question comes down to the fact that your wife has to respect you. If your wife respects you, she will accept your saying no to things without pique; indeed she will take into account whether you'd be interested in going to something before she even asks you to. I'm not saying you need to "dominate" your relationship or anything like that - as the other commenters note, you should always be looking for opportunities to make your wife happy, even if it inconveniences you greatly; that's part of what you're signing up for.
If seeing your wife happy is a priority for you, you'll gladly do all kinds of silly stuff that's not for you; and you won't think about the cost to you. Many are the hours I've spent loitering in quilt shops for this reason, lol. But I also know that if I tell her no, I'm not going to thing X or Y, it'll just be accepted. I feel like if your partner does not respect you, then she'll have an expectation you'll go along with what she says no matter what, and if you don't she'll feel justified in being mad about it.
bolido_sentimental
20d ago
physical media exists, you could purchase movies on DVD and books at bookstores and you would have more than enough content for the rest of your life, but people don't do that.
I do that. That's exactly what I do, along with the ad-free streaming service from the library. I would recommend this to everyone. I actually dislike ads enough that I avoid all the stuff you're talking about in here. I stopped watching sports because the ads were too obnoxious. I think there are in fact many people living this lifestyle, but you would only know about this by meeting them or asking about it.
bolido_sentimental
21d ago
I was there, but I was lurking then and I'm still lurking now.
Currently reading Jane Austen's Persuasion for church book club. (Everyone can pick the Austen novel of their choosing; this is in observance of her 250th birthday. I've previously read Pride & Prejudice, Mansfield Park, and Northanger Abbey and enjoyed them a lot, especially the last one.)
I'm about 1/3 of the way in and I have to say, she has not really got me to care about the characters much yet. Anne seems a decent girl, but I don't know why it's so impossible for her to move on from Captain Wentworth, for all that he's very charming and everyone likes him. As we meet people like Charles Hayter and Captains Harville and Benwick, we repeatedly see that there are plenty of nice men around. Eight years after my first relationship, I never thought about it anymore.
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