throwaway-7742
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throwaway-7742
11d ago
If his defenders are good eggs, then just treat them with kindness and respect, and steer clear of the topic of the bad actor. Hopefully you all will appear to be the better option then.
Narcissists have an alien way of thinking, and they don't change. Best way to deal with them is to cut off contact with them. Next best way is to limit contact with them and don't react when they screw with you. In groups, you gotta sniff out who's a good actor and who's a bad actor. Then you gotta build good enough friendships/relationships with the good actors so that the bad actors can't divide and conquer (or triangulate).
You'll do fine.
throwaway-7742
11d ago
But in all of this I'm lost on what to actually do.
You do what you and your group did (from what I understand). You kick the bad actor out of the group. And if his defenders give the group too much grief, you kick them out too. And then you quit engaging with them. You have to be aggressive when dealing with these types of people. They're addicted to conflict. And they'll never change. Be willing to be the "bad guy" in the situation. They're wasting your time and energy. They're decreasing your happiness. That's an enemy in my book. Be sure to reinforce bonds with your allies in the group.
throwaway-7742
16d ago
No, but I'm sure it doesn't help.
It saps/hijacks the motivation to exercise. Affects your neurological and endocrinological systems. Makes you lethargic. But obviously there're other factors at play: the sedentary lifestyles due to technological advances (automobile, internet, personal computer), the ubiquitousness of sugar and processed foods, the lack of quality sleep due to disrupted circadian rhythms (artificial light, eating/drinking too close to bedtime, working third shift), etc.
throwaway-7742
21d ago
Comic book media for sure.
- John Stewart (Green Lantern) and Shayera Hol (Hawkgirl) have a child (Rex Stewart aka Warhawk) in Justice League Unlimited.
- Luke Cage and Jessica Jones have a child (Danielle Cage) via affair when Jessica Jones was dating Scott Lang (Ant-Man). Danielle Cage becomes Captain America for a stretch.
- Kara Zor-EL/Karen Starr (Supergirl/Power Girl) is in a sexual relationship with Mr. Terrific and later a romantic relationship with Val-Zod (Superman) in The New 52.
- (Black) Jimmy Olsen is in a love triangle with Kara Zor-El (Supergirl) in Supergirl television show.
- Miles Morales (Spider-Man) and Gwen Stacey (Spider-Gwen) have romantic feelings for each other. Justifying it, by saying that it's an alternate dimension Gwen Stacey.
Black men taking formerly white men's superhero mantles and banging white women.
I've stopped paying close attention to any comic book media.
throwaway-7742
23d ago
I would prohibit contact sports (football, basketball, rugby, field hockey, soccer, lacrosse, wrestling, hockey, boxing, futsal and martial arts with opponents) under the age of 18. Maybe team sports in general. Likely gymnastics, cheerleading, and figure skating.
I would prohibit the consumption of soda under the age of 18. Possibly.
Maybe require an hour of walking at school under the age of 18.
Basically I would try to prevent CTE, obesity, and unnecessary sports injuries. And try to save some children from their narcissistic parents.
throwaway-7742
1mo ago
I had to read The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank, The Chosen by Chaim Potok, and Night by Elie Wiesel at various points during my Catholic junior high and high school education during the aughts. None of the discussions involved the Israeli–Palestinian conflict. It was fine.
Invisible Children gave a presentation or two during high school. This was several years before Kony 2012.
I disliked an anti-alcohol presentation given by a sadist cop. It was cut short because said cop more or less got off on stage recounting the time he busted a kid for underage drinking. Both students and teachers were not happy.
Also disliked a sex education talk given in a health class. Two speakers came in and told their stories about how STIs ruined their lives. Don't have sex kids or you'll become infertile and die. Okay.
throwaway-7742
1mo ago
The debate would've been far more productive with just Mouin Rabbani and Benny Morris. Destiny shouldn't have been in the same room as the other three, but it wasn't a great look for Finklestein to say the least. He really should've ignored Destiny completely. "With all due respect, you're such a fantastic moron." "You could Google it, Mr. Finkel-stinker-" A pretty pathetic interaction. I'm personally over debates as a format.
throwaway-7742
1mo ago
Who gives a shit if Opp loses his security clearance?
Exactly. It's not like the prevention of nuclear proliferation hinged on whether or not he lost his security clearance. That's what didn't work for me. Why's the rest of his life important? What's the takeaway? Don't associate with communism, otherwise you'll lose your security clearance?
The movie should've focused solely on the Manhattan Project and the immediate reaction to the dropping of the bombs. Or maybe the race between the two sides, getting more of the German and/or Japanese perspective.
throwaway-7742
1mo ago
EDIT: I think J. Robert Oppenheimer is a strange choice for a three hour biographical thriller. A documentary makes more sense to me.
Also I tend to dislike biopics due to the propagandistic nature of the genre.
throwaway-7742
1mo ago
I didn't watch enough movies to give a better alternative. Not Barbie. Not Killers of the Flower Moon. I liked Asteroid City better, but it wasn't even nominated.
I want to like Nolan films, but on the whole, I don't. Oppenheimer was one of Nolan's better films, but I still disliked its overall structure. School > Communism > Manhattan Project > Security Clearance Hearing > Senate Confirmation Hearing. It felt unfocused to me.
throwaway-7742
2mo ago
Jack Nicklaus's Golf My Way instructional video is informative. Look up beginner videos on rules, etiquette, tips, and strategy.
Stick to the driving range until you feel comfortable. Alignment sticks are useful. I'd seek out videos of proper usage. Some folks use Dr. Scholl's Odor X Spray on the club face to see where the ball connects during your golf swing.
Good luck and have fun.
throwaway-7742
2mo ago
Check out Devil Daggers or Hyper Demon.
One can make pragmatic arguments why "unchecked border-crossings, disintegrating families, DEI deans, and worthless degrees" aren't good and worth avoiding. I'm personally indifferent to fading churches, partially because they've been useless in preventing the current situation. At the end of the day, one has to support candidates in the primaries who are sane and support his/her favored policies. I don't see any of the above issues and the good policies to address them being abandoned anytime soon.
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