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I want to point out up front that conservative men might want to sow their wild oats a bit- young men everywhere do- but the women who want to sow their wild oats are almost exclusively liberal. The reason why is not particularly relevant here, but it’s obvious that a conservative dating app would be heavily male in comparison to, eg, a college Republican club, or a young adults Bible study, or other conservative space for mostly young people.
As for why young women are so much more liberal than young men, it’s partly because of knock on effects of Covid(women being more risk averse and more conformist and more emotional made the gender divide absolutely huge on that issue) and partly that young people have leaned left since time immemorial, it’s just that conservative communities have recently gotten better at staunching the bleeding from their young men. There’s no reason to make specific predictions off of this; it’s possible that those men will eventually become liberals, possible that conservative communities will figure out how to keep their women from leaving, and possible the current state of affairs continues.
how so?
Managing to capture a cool aesthetic with big trucks, beards, and guns. Granted, as I say above, I don't think that's the group having any trouble finding partners.
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