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Every Book I Read Last Year
I set a goal of reading 26 books last year, or approximately one every two weeks. I did not meet that goal. Probably primarily because I chose to read War and Peace while annotating it for a friend. I also read snatches of a lot of other things, but only included stuff I read more or less cover-to-cover (I’ll admit to skimming sections of Yellowface and Stranger in a Strange Land between about the 50% and 85% marks).
Honorable Mentions I did not finish: Seeing Like a State, which was brilliant and I’ll get around to finishing it later, but I only read it in boring meetings and I didn’t have quite quite enough of those where I wasn’t involved; The Good Soldier Svejk, which is good but I got bored of; Bob Dylan’s The Philosophy of Modern Songwriting I still have like a half dozen songs to go, but it’s not really that good and I got out of the rhythm of it; I worked my way through a pile of Platonic dialogues, but I try to stick to only counting it as finishing a “book” if I’ve gone cover to cover as bound at the printer otherwise I'd have to start thinking in pages and then wordcount; ditto, I suppose, the King James bible, in that I read passages but not the whole book; I started The Savage Detectives while walking my wife around the mall but haven’t got back around to finish it; I started Where Men Win Glory, Krakauer's biography of Pat Tillman, which is good but I forgot it at my parents house at some point and never got back to it. I also don’t “count” audiobooks towards the goal, though I quite enjoy them and listen to them pretty constantly.
Razzmatazz! I devoured Chris Moore’s novels when I was a kid, but this was painful to read. His schtick just doesn’t work anymore. I keep meaning to reread his novel of Christ’s lost years, Lamb, so I can review it for themotte, it really is a brilliant time capsule of mid-2000s Morally Therapeutic Deism. Would not recommend this one though, trying to be sensitive to historical traumas of prostitution while also playing it for laughs leaves you with neither.
The War Nerd Iliad Loved it, brilliant. A prose translation of the Iliad, what I admire about it is that it has a strong interpretative view of what the work means, and he sets out to give the reader that view; where so many academic translations get so caught up in accuracy and euphemism that they fail to give much energy. Highly, highly recommend, you owe it to yourself to read this one.
The Unbearable Lightness of Being Excellent book, deservers all the praise it ever got. It filled me with nostalgia for when great literature could also be fun. It’s a book that has a real political and philosophical message, while also being a perfectly fun adventure story. Back in the day a masterpiece could also be a bestseller.
From Hell Great book. Boy is Alan Moore weird. I keep meaning to look more into the theory behind it.
Sevastapol Sketches Around here I got off track to the goal, because I made the mistake of starting War and Peace. But I told a friend I would annotate it for her. I kind of stalled on it, so I went and read Sevastopol Sketches to kind of get a win in the books. It was a great pick me up, and reading it added a lot to reading War and Peace so I was glad I did it. It’s interesting seeing prototypes of a lot of the characters, Nikolai and Andrei and Berg showing up in miniature. Would highly recommend it if you’re a Tolstoy fan.
Cheated A book about the Astros trashcan scandal in Major League Baseball, it is a high-mediocre sports journalism book but a bunch of anecdotes stick with me today. If you liked that era of baseball, you’ll like the book.
Day of the Oprichnik I hated this book and didn’t get it, but I think it’s because I’m not Russian and I don’t find gross-out gore or porn interesting.
Trust the Plan A book pretending to report on the QAnon phenomenon, but it mostly got so many things wrong that I only got through it because it was mercifully short. I wasn’t, ultimately, any better informed about Q after than I was before.
Aeneid The Dryden translation. I prefer older translations of classics generally, both because they tend to aim for actual poetry, and because they believe in what they’re writing about. Maybe not the most accurate translation from the Latin, but the translator thought that the story had value and meaning beyond as a museum piece, which gives it more energy.
Yellowface This was the worst book I read this year. Turner Diaries for the anhedonic members of a college Women of Color Collective.
And The Band Played On Brilliantly written, and I learned a lot about the AIDS crisis and gay culture. A really great example of writing, in that I would bother my wife by reading out passages that were alternately horrifying and hilarious, it captures the tragedy of plague without ever letting go of absurdism and fun. It was amazing how many personalities turned back up like bad nickels for COVID, and how the actions taken to combat COVID largely map onto the AIDS crisis as things that would have worked for AIDS, but didn’t for COVID. I expect we’ll see the same cycle again, always fighting the last war. Perhaps a consequence of Gerontocracy.
Path Lit by Lightning Really nicely written biography of Jim Thorpe, a well done piece of sports history, and I was thinking later while listening to Lonesome Dove on audiobook about how time periods intersect. Lonesome Dove is set in the West in the 1870s, Newt is around 20 by the end. Jim Thorpe was born in 1887. Jim Thorpe’s father could have been one of the sad Indians in the background of the cattle drive in Lonesome Dove, Newt (assuming a natural lifespan) would have lived to read headlines in the Montana newspapers about Thorpe’s exploits. Thorpe meanwhile, is just on the edge of modernity for us: one of the first modern Olympians, the first president of the NFL, an early Hollywood fixture. He’s just on the edge of having run into people that I could have watched on TV, and then he is just on the edge of having known rebel Indian chiefs in the old west.
Master and Commander What can I say about this that hasn’t been said before? He does such a good job of giving a feel of how crazy the world his characters inhabit is. A firehose of exposition without a single speech.
Stranger in a Strange Land When I read Dune I felt like I had suddenly discovered what Star Wars had ripped off, Star Wars was just Dune with less thinking. Then I read Stranger and realized that Dune was just Stranger if the author was terrified of human sexuality.
War and Peace My favorite work of literature. A masterpiece. It contains all of human life.
King Rat I read it after watching Shogun with my mother, and wanted to revisit Clavell. This was so much better than I thought it would be. Absolutely perfect book. Read it. The strongest indictment of capitalism I’ve ever read, and a love letter to it all at once. Clavell was a master of writing books that are deep and engaging adventure stories.
Stepford Wives Really fun Halloween book, and it’s funny how much of it holds up, but at the same time how much of it never makes any sense at all.
My Brilliant Friend Read it because it was ranked so high on various best of the millennium lists. I can see why it ranked so high: Ferrante pulls you into her world, head first. Beautifully written, and consistently engaging. I can’t wait to get to the sequels this year. There’s an amusing irony to the debates, which in America center on whether men are sexist for refusing to read this brilliant book by a female author, and in Europe mostly revolve around which man is the real Elena Ferrante.
On the Edge The further I get from this book, the less I think about it. Junk food in text form.
The Price of Peace A Singaporean educational propaganda book about Malaya during the Japanese Occupation in WWII. An angle of WWII we don’t normally get in America. Fascinating to look at, but not something I’d recommend. Mostly fascinating for examining the message the propaganda is trying to get across, and for considering different viewpoints of WWII.
Sad Cypress An old Agatha Christie, just something I got as a gift. A nice little treat.
Il Gigante A biography of Michaelangelo around the David. Picked it up at a church flea market, it was mediocre, but I finished it anyway.
The Message Ta Nehisi Coates new book. I’m buying copies of it for all the Nice Liberal Jews in my life. He makes a powerful case for why the core values of American liberalism are incompatible with support for Israel as a Jewish ethnostate.
I feel like I’m forgetting something, but I’m probably not. Right now, in addition to struggling through Plato, I’m loving Emily Wilson’s translation of the Odyssey. It’s not the most traditional translation, but it’s so wonderful, the language feels like sipping an icy sprite on a sunny day.
For 2025, I want to read some self-help books, strange as that may sound, to get some of the books that are always being recommended. I want to read more science fiction, I haven't been able to get into the genre in a while. I want to get around to some more of the recommendations people made here for graphic novels. Basically, I'm in the mood for lighter fare.
Cool post, thanks for writing it. Should I read Shogun? It's been recommended to me a thousand times for obvious reasons, but I'm a jerk about historical accuracy and I'm worried it's going to be full of anachronistic nonsense or magical oriental Mr. Miyagi characters. Maybe I'm approaching the book too seriously and should suspend disbelief?
FWIW, I'm reading King Warrior Magician Lover by Moore & Gillette, and it gets recommended fairly often in some manosphere corners. I'm only about halfway through and I'm not sure I'm totally sold on (what appears to me to be) all the Jungian psychobabble, but it's kind of interesting and different, and I could see how the framework might be useful for men. That might be one to check out.
Tim Ferriss gets recommended a lot. I read the Four Hour Work Week back in college, but it didn't leave a huge impression on me. All I remember is that he became a "kickboxing world champion" in some weight class by somehow exploiting a loophole in the rules and... that proved some point about hustling, or something. But a lot of people seem to like his stuff.
Yes. I re-read sections of it along with a friend while re-watching the show. It holds up better than I remember, I might re-read it in full. There are parts that might not hold up perfectly, and you can do nit-picky historical accuracy stuff (technically Geishas didn't exist at that exact time, stuff like that), but if you view it primarily from the perspective of Blackthorne (largely as a stand-in for Clavell himself, who was a prisoner of the Japanese in Singapore during WWII) I think it holds up really well. It's very GRRM when it comes to throneroom politics, very Ian Fleming when it comes to swashbuckling omni-competent British hero everyone wants to fuck.
Reading it again in parts, I realized how much the book is a metaphor for the aftermath of WWII. It starts with the Japanese doing unforgivable things to Blackthorne and his men, and asks how can he forgive them? This mirrors the journey of Japan in the second half of the twentieth century: how can Clavell forgive the Japanese for what they did to him, how can the Japanese forgive the Americans for the bombings? Clavell suggests it is possible for people so totally opposed to find human connection, understanding, and love; even if the book is far from utopian in its vision.
My problem with the praise of the (remade) miniseries is how the ostensible protagonist of Shogun (Blackthorne) is relegated to an ineffectual buffoon, without any real redeeming qualities apart from the fact that Toranaga and Mariko seemingly take to him. I enjoyed the book immensely both times I read it. I am somewhat surprised by your praise of Ta Nehini Coates, who I think is a muddled-thinking fraud.. That said, I haven't read this book you're recommending.
I mostly agree with you about the miniseries, I think it wasn't great as an adaptation, but it's a favorite of my mother and I, one of the first "adult" books she gave me when I was a teen, and I'd previously gotten her the Orson-Welles TV miniseries for her birthday years ago. So it was event viewing for us, we watched an episode every few days with the kind of vaguely-Asian food that nods towards the concept while being edible to my boomer parents. So I enjoyed it for the bonding and seeing one of my favorite stories on screen, but the de-centering of Blackthorne was a weakness. He needed to be: A) Freakishly tall, B) Blond, C) Super Hot.
RE TNC: I like his writing and find him interesting, even if I don't agree with him on everything. The Message isn't a book that's meant to prove his moral postulates, it's a book that is meant to take his liberal-left premises as a given and then apply them to the situation at hand. If you're reading The Message and you want to contest his premises, then the book doesn't really have much for you. The fact that Hughes in that review can't grok to the fact that the book is framed as a series of lectures at his alma mater, hence the "comrades," makes me distrust the review in general; but I find house slaves like Hughes obnoxious so that might be a personal dislike.
The Message is a work of theology, and like any work of theology it doesn't need to start with Genesis. TNC makes a bulletproof argument, in my view, that if one views the segregationist South's sheriffs and Apartheid South Africa's Bantustans as unqualified evils, then one is also obligated by one's own liberal moral code to view modern-day Israel-Palestine as evil and wrong. It punctures the myth that the Holocaust absolves Israel's sins today, "your oppression will not save you."
Of course, if one disagrees that Apartheid South Africa's Bantustans were a bad thing, or that Sundown Town Sheriffs telling car travelers to move on outta here before you get into trouble were bad people, if one thought that being a perpetrator was better than being a victim and NEVER thought that anyone's oppression would save them, then TNC's argument holds no logic for you. Any more than reading an argument about whether Marijuana is halal will make any sense to you if you think Islam is the ravings of an epileptic whose rich wife took a consolation-diagnosis from a passing monk too seriously.
I can understand and appreciate either side of the argument. People who have nostalgia for Apartheid and support Israel, or people who worship Mandela and oppose Israel. What gets stuck in my craw here is people who worship Mandela and support Israel, and I think TNC does a good job of arguing against them by their own logic.
Not sure where the "house slave" comment came from; that's surprisingly uncharitable from you, but maybe he (or I) wound you up.
Your either/or argument here doesn't move me, actually, nor do your analogies, but it's an interesting perspective.
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