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Why do I hate every job I do?
I changed job, like, 4 times in my life. To give a bit of perspective, I did a bit of everything (Public servant in administration, consultancy for a small company, then marketing specialist, now business developer and client & project manager)
EVerytime the job was defined by an initial sense of excitement and wonder, an honeymoon lasting like 6 months, and then complete demoralization and destruction. The reasons are always the same: Sense of abandonement from upper echelon, sense of uselessness, frustration derived from general disorganisation etc.
But after changing several jobs, everytime with radical differences both in theme, position, duties, working hours, wage etc, I am beginning to think that maybe the problem resides with me? I am more of an academic/literate type, always loved to write, read, talk with people. But earning a life with this kind of job is impossible, so I decided to pursue more earthly manners. But still, I feel frustrated, and despite adopting every possible idea to improve on the job (training, strict sleep and relaxation schedule, learning how to focus and external tools to remember tasks etc), I still fail to feel remotely good at something.
I have no idea what to do, I feel way less intelligent than I look like from the external.
I keep telling myself that if the next job also doesn't work out, I'll switch to blue-collar work. Something outdoors, if possible. Surely those people will appreciate a heads-in-the-cloud pseudo-intellectual more than the office drones I worked with so far.
You can, but watch out if your IQ is above like 110; keep your head down and castrate your vocabulary or you may soon find everyone else squinting at you in suspicion.
I tried lower-middle class work among some lovely Red Tribe yokels, but made a few missteps early on and rapidly garnered a reputation for being far, far smarter than they were. It did work fine for the first four years, and had a lot of fun with them, but then the Peter Principle saw a petty, insecure moron promoted to the position once occupied by my decent boss, and work became a constant game of bootlicking, kowtowing, and looking over my shoulder. One of the last emails I sent him stated, literally, "I'm sorry you find me hard to understand. I want very much for you to understand me."
TL;DR in a workplace where the average IQ is significantly below yours, beware, for big words = bad words
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