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I went out with some male friends last night, hit up several (PRICEY!) bars in our downtown area.
Saw some small groups of ladies out. A few times I watched a random guy approach and engage in conversation, but they usually disengaged and left after a couple minutes, with no apparent exchange of numbers or anything. So not an obvious or dramatic rejection, but not a success either.
Question: Is "buy those ladies a drink" even a viable tactic anymore?
And if drinks are super fucking expensive ($14+ for a cocktail these days, so buying 3 would run you $50) how could you possibly justify the cost unless you had a legitimately decent odds of success?
I don't try to meet girls during nightlife any more, but even when I did I would never open by buying a drink (let alone drinks for her friends).
Sometimes I would after we'd already had a 15 minute conversation and I knew the connection was there. It was more likely than not that the girl would buy me one back.
Just don't start off with buying a drink. I've never seen it making a difference and if a girl shot me down for not buying one I would probably have been happy to dodge the bullet.
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