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How I can I be less bothered ad hominem attacks by randos online? I recently was pushing back against some seed-oil sophistry on substack (not even advocating for no-meat/veganism like you might assume, there isn't actually good evidence that vegan/vegetarian is better than the mediterranean diet), and some dude told me my profile picture looked like that of a prematurely aged teenager (for reference, here is the picture). I know this is bait because most of the time seed-oil sophists don't have any real arguments, but I couldn't prevent it from really bothering me. I've had similar experiences with non-appearance comments about intelligence, personal character, etc. and they all bother me to some extent. In real life this isn't really an issue because it's faux pas to make these kinds of comments (or at least has been since I graduated high school). Maybe a sign of some underlying insecurities I need to work through, or that I need to get a bit more sleep. Thoughts the motte?
I know it's a separate thing from what you're talking about, but you're a normal looking guy. Maybe a little crazy eyes? ;)
One thing I love about online ad-hominems is that they're just... inaccurate. Someone is stabbing completely blindly. Even here, my most controversial post basically had multiple users calling me a horrible person. It's Riddikulus. I know a lot about myself, and have compiled enough secondary evidence to support both the good and the bad. Just have to own the latter.
You can never eliminate the pain from a knife in the dark, but laughing at the absurdity of it all is a good protection mechanism IMO.
Thanks man for the sanity check. I know I'm fit and I know I don't look like an old man at the ripe age of checks watch 27.
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