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It is honestly good that Twilight fanfiction is present in public libraries precisely because, while it is porn for women, it is not necessarily politically advantageous to them [as a gender] for that to be known. Most of the dime-store romance fiction is like that, too.
The Japanese call this "shonen", I believe, but every culture has this. Lots of it is
cornyporny, unrealistic stuff- people actually getting along to accomplish a task or series of tasks, motives are simple, conflicts are {tractable, comprehensible, winnable}, and morality is black and white.And I get that when you say "porn" there's a normative component to that (because sex is, like, special or whatever), but I remain unconvinced that these things are actually, in fact, different- they both create unrealistic expectations of the same/the other gender and how to interact with the world in general, to say nothing about actually attaining those goals.
The problem is, and remains, trying to force porn meant for adults onto kids. This is why "but can you see sex in the book?" is kind of a distraction, where it's more just a coincidence that it lines up- for a somewhat-related example, you can't see anything traditionally considered explicit in Adolescence, but that doesn't not make it child porn all the same.
And of course, now kids are going online and seeing all kinds of stuff definitely not suitable for them at that age (or even any age) and it's pushing back expectations of sexual activity earlier and earlier. The notion that you should have a boyfriend/girlfriend at 13 would have been "what the hell?" in my day, now it's increasingly getting to be "well duh, they were fucking since they were 12".
Well, not quite that bad: 15 seems to be the average age for sexual activity while 13 is for viewing porn.
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