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Apropos of a very small, tangential discussion on the main culture war thread, what are the borders of polyamory?
For me personally, I don’t think of any variation of one man/x number of women as actually being polyamorous in the current year sense. It’s all just gradations between patriarch with +1 wife, or a mistresses situation, or a full on Ottoman seraglio.
I can’t say I base this on much more than vibes, but modern polyamory seems to connote at least one additional male in the mix, and probably something that tends towards more even mixes of men and women.
One Penis Policies are the most common format of polyamory seen in the real world. It might not be the most pure form of poly or the most honored form of poly in theory but it's the most common, so it seems like it would be odd to define it out of the community.
It also seems odd to call such a scenario monogamy, which would be the implication if one defined it out of polyamory.
In my mind polyamory is defined by:
-- Some degree of social and public openness about the nature of one's relationships.
-- Open Acceptance of the arrangement by all partners involved, with at least some degree of lip service to the idea that this is a positive arrangement for all involved.
So cheating isn't polyamory on either count, but a two ladies, and I'm the only man does, polygyny being a subcategory.
Definitionally, sure, but I think it's connotationally out.
Why not just use the terms that exist, like polyandry or cuckoldry or open marriage?
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