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Culture War Roundup for the week of May 5, 2025

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I think polyamory works best if everybody involved is bisexual, and therefore everyone in the polycule can loosely be dating everybody else.

Or if the circle is/stays very small? Then you can have two bisexual + one straight person.

Oh, all sorts of configurations can work. But in your configuration the straight person might still feel jealous when one of the bisexuals is sleeping with the other instead of the straight one. The jealousy problem is however obliterated if everybody's screwing everybody.

He meant that, if you have 1 heterosexual and 2 bisexuals of the opposite sex, everyone can still sleep with everyone else. If there's nobody else of the same sex being heterosexual doesn't affect the number of combinations.

I think this works with one straight man and two bisexual women, but might not work with the average straight women and two gay men. I think jealousy is much more likely if your partner is having other sex to which, by definition, you're not invited - sex the very thought of which might enrage you. If you're all bisexuals, and your other two partners are doing nothing together that they haven't also done with you in the mix - who's counting? But a straight woman with no interest in watching Boyfriend One sodomize Boyfriend Two might get upset if they're spending too much time together instead of on her.

I mean, straight women fucking love seeing hot men railing each other, so this doesn’t seem like that much of a problem to me.

Do they? Last time I saw data on this I thought it said straight women didn't really consume gay porn.

Can you dig it out? I can think of several ways both of you can be right.

  • Looking at the proportion of women among gay porn consumers instead of the other way around.
  • Looking at all women instead of porn consuming women (might actually be right way to do it)
  • What do we mean by "straight"? / What is a woman? I heard several female detransitioners saying gay porn / the fantasy of being a gay boy with a gay lover being a gateway to transition.

I think one of the kernels was that women are surprising consumers of lesbian and solo female porn for similar reasons that men are surprising consumers of big dick porn. Focus on aspirational anatomy and the pleasure of the specific genitals the viewer has.

Gay porn is often also produced with an aim towards the (gay) male gaze - women like gay male romance novels and such (at least Japanese ones do) but it is quite different to actually viewing the railing as it where.