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I agree, for me it's just an example of frustrating wording, in a situation where a considerably more concrete reason seems appropriate.
If I had to guess what actually happened, it's that a teenage girl in foster care(and let's be clear here- she was a sixteen year old in foster care) ran away from her placement(and it was probably actually legitimately shitty), encountered this guy(who it seems like she already knew) who offered to let her stay at his place for a while after she complained and she accepted with full knowledge that that meant having sex with him(if we have any teenage girls reading this- an older male acquaintance who's willing to let you sleep over because you're mad at your guardians absolutely expects that), and she either got mad at him for whatever reason or wanted to get out of trouble for running away so she said he raped her.
Yes, survival sex with teenage runaways is bad behavior. But rape charges over it getting dropped doesn't require any other explanation.
It would still be rape to do it with a sixteen year old in a coercive situation.
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Good God, I hope not.
Worry not. Teenage girls have other things to do.
Charge they phone, eat hot chip and lie, I assume.
What is hot chip?
I think I read somewhere many years ago that "eat hot chip and lie" is a censor-avoiding version of "eat hot shit and die". Ftttg is referencing a meme that incorporates this phrase.
If "eat hot chip and lie" means "eat hot shit and die", that's news to me. I was under the impression the original tweeter meant it quite literally: that "eating hot chip" (e.g. Doritos) and "lying" are two of the only activities Gen Z women engage in, along with going to McDonald's, twerking, being bisexual and charging they phones.
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I'm going to push back on this posited scenario slightly, although your guess could be spot-on. My guess: Runaway teen 16 year old girl, dude is himself somewhat aggressively flirty with her. She, having been perhaps exposed to unwanted attention at home (or expelled because whatever authority figure in the house found her too promiscuous, or whatever) is nevertheless not used to attention from non family males, and is thus receptive to a degree. He portrays himself as earnest, helpful, promises she'll be fine, come on, it's a few nights. Perhaps gives her a drink. Or something else. In the course of the evening he asserts himself physically, and of course she is now helpless and once again at the mercy of a shitty adult. Sex occurs, and because she is 16 and not particularly confident to refuse she lets it happen. The dismissive way he treats her after this encounter then reinforces in her mind that she has been used and manipulated.
She goes to the authorities. They hear her case but realize the can of worms that would be opened, and, short of anything but circumstantial evidence, her word against his, and faced with a shitshow where race will be a factor, they quietly gull her into dropping the whole thing. Maybe her family gets wind of it all, wishes to have no scandal (a raped daughter is hardly a trophy to be put on the mantle) and drop it.
In the interest of justice.
Or sure, maybe she was just a roller who he caught and kicked out and she tried to have him arrested. We don't know.
You can read the complaint here:
https://x.com/doctorretardphd/status/1918460928104006119
I think the original procurer / kidnapper / rapist inviting over his friend immediately so the friend can join the raping is probably what makes this a weird case especially since she didn’t know them prior. Plus there was a rape kit done plus physical evidence!
It is possible it’s just some poor runaway who just had a he said / she said situation but… I don’t think so given this is exactly how it went down in Rotherham et al.
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