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I used to use public transit in my city when I was a broke college kid. There were many daily commuters and I didn't really notice the issue of it being dirty or gross.
I personally witnessed plenty of women being hit on. Heck, I've hit on women myself, and been hit on / stalked home.
The one incident that stands out in my memory actually appeared to be semi-consensual. A very drunk man with a thick latino accent was hitting on a fat, possibly mentally retarded woman. They were having lots of trouble communicating due to their respective impairments. I had about a twenty minute bus trip, it started about 5 minutes into the trip and by the time I got off it sounded like they were working out the details of whose place they would go to. The drunk man didn't have much of a place, and the mentally retarded woman was worried that her guardian would stop any hanky panky if they went to her house. It was wild. I tried to look around the bus and see if anyone else was noticing this crazyness. Nope, they were all missing out due to headphones.
The time I hit on a woman I actually got a date out of it. I picked up a scrap of paper and wrote "You are cute :) text me [my number]" and dropped the paper on her lap as I left the train. She texted me back a few hours later and we ended up meeting for a date. It didn't go any further, I don't think she was romantically interested in me.
The time I was hit on I was coming back from a drinking event with co-workers. They all had to catch a different train, so I was left alone for a few minutes waiting for me train. I was pretty drunk and head was in my hands trying to rub some sobriety into my face. A drunk woman about a decade older than me was in the same situation, all her coworkers left on the earlier train and she had to wait for the later one. She chats me up on the platform, and then on the train. She lays out her worries and frustrations as a manager onto me. She tries to convince me to go to a bar with her, but I'm twenty and can't get into any bars (yes I was drinking illegally with co-workers). I tell her I just want to go home and sleep. She follows me all the way home. She sits on my couch talking to me for another 30 minutes while I drunkenly snack on something and semi-ignore her. Eventually I want to go to sleep and have to kick her out. She doesn't want to leave. I tell her I'll go to a bar with her, and that gets her moving. Once she is out of the apartment I close the door. She knocks on it for a few minutes and I kept telling her to go home. She finally leaves. This would have been near maximum level creepiness if the genders were reversed.
In summary just add me as another point of data to the growing pile that says "you are missing things".
Okay, I’m pretty sure I’ve read this doujin...
Was it a slightly chubby, boobless, and not all that attractive woman in her thirties in the doujin?
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