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Husbands? The rank and file maybe, but a large majority of the thought leaders were shrewish spinsters
That's entirely possible, I don't know. But for most of them, I assume it all originated from the sentiment that their husbands had it better. All they knew was that they leave for work in the morning, come back in the evening, and every month they get a big paycheck. Surely they must be doing all sorts of interesting stuff all day! Plus, they get paid!
I think technology played a huge role too. Once you have a dishwasher, toaster, microwave, fridge, stove, laundry machine, grocery delivery, baby formula, birth control etc etc it’s actually rather easy to run a household and it becomes pretty boring. Those who complain about how hard it is to parent now really have no idea how good they have it compared to prior eras. So there’s a ton of idle time spent feeling bored so that’s what drove women to want to work, the tedium of sitting at home with nothing to do. Granted now they know that that’s actually a pretty awesome deal, and it’s not unusual to hear women today complain about wishing they could be home makers if only they could find a rich guy to commit to them (good luck with that ladies)
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